No Contact Annoymous – Share your struggles with keeping NC

@martin

unfortunately no. He will be at his aunts for christmas in Lincoln so the earliest i get to meet him after the magic letter stint would be in January before the spring term begins. But that might not be a good time to meet him because the last I talked to him, he was feeling so excited to attend a church camp with that girl in Jan.So maybe after the camp, we get to meet..

@aryyan

my email: [email protected] , maybe we can talk using hangouts on gmail or something.

Me and my ex made it past the honeymoon period and had 21 months of our life together. Our relationship was our longest and most serious ever, so when she decided to end it, it was really bad for me. She seemed okay but I know that inside she’s feeling all shitty and hurt too, just not as bad as me I guess.

I really do wish we get together again someday. We were so right for each other. And I am thankful that I came across this forum, this board. It’s nice to know that there are people out there going through the same thing I am and that we can be there for each other too.

@Ccltj009

Same here…I feel a whole lot better to share it with people and to know we are all working towards the same goal. Most of our relationships ended around the same time too.

@aryyan

You shouldn’t generalise really because in my situation my gf moved on the next day she broke up with me where as I still have not. I am find it hard to even look at other women because I keep finding attributes of them to match hers. The dumper usually moves on a lot quicker whereas the Dumpee goes through the 5 stages of grief (Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance : This is the order of stages I went through).

The NC may not work at the end, it might if the dumper is unhappy and realises that he/she made a mistake or acted in rash. It also depends on what terms the couple broke up.

I really hate uncertainty.

@aryyan

We will all definitely move on because we have to and it will happen naturally with time. But I just don’t want to. I really love the past, it was the best years of my life (I spent my entire undergrad years with her.) Things took a turn and hopefully it would all get back to normal.

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Also I think we should all start forcing ourselves to go on dates and meet other people. I am considering speed dating to start with.

@aryyan

I was never depressed before I met her, in fact I got her out of her bored depressed life and showed her excitement. I never cheated on her but however I used to tell white lies; I have changed since then yet she doesn’t believe me ( I have never lied to her in over a year; white lies like giving the wrong approximation of time etc, it was nothing serious in my head.)

I think what you need to do during the NC period is put on a show sort of. You need to somehow convey to him that you can be fun and exciting. By showing him you are having a great time he might get re-attracted to you. This is where we can use social media to help us. Remember not to overdo it, it has to be very subtle.

ANC worked for me i dont love my ex anymore,but im seeing her time to time and spending time together..she is even calling me when se feels bad and wants to watch movies.play games or go walk with me and even talk,but i might get my feelings back and might start want more at some point because i feel atraction towards her but she knows it i told her and even tough that she wanna see me 😀