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Hi everyone I am 25yrs old is/was in a 7 years relationship
Day 5
I don’t even know where we stand. We argued and you told me to just told me to leave you/break up with you when I tried to apologies. I walked away hoping you’d stop me. why do you always do that? Why do you always push me away whenever things get tough? all the things you said to me like marriage, traveling, and family seems so distant. I hope you didn’t mean what you said and giving you the space you need will clam you down and hoping we could really fix things.
I really hope to hear from you soon.@all_one
you have just relapsed, it happens from time to time but it will gradually decrease.
There’s no cure for it, just patience
Hi guys!
This was a fantastic idea!
I’m at 46 days of no contact since a breakup from a 2,5 years relationship. He already contacted me several times, but I didn’t respond.
This is horrible. Sometimes I don’t think about contacting him. But other times I think about it a lot!! So I distract myself! I even changed the sentence of my phone when it is locked, to remember myself that I’m almost at 60 days of no contact! And you know what? The truth is that I was able to stop talking to the man I love for 46 days. And I actually understood something: I don’t need him to make my life. I am finally moving on. It took a lot of tears and suffering, I still think about him, I miss him, yes, I miss him, but I’m not miserable. And this is good! This is great, actually! I know that there’s a lot for me to go through before I can take him of my mind, specially because I don’t know if I want him back. I thought I wanted him back in my life, but I don’t know anymore. But after reading all your posts, I just wanted to tell you that this hurts, but in the end it’s going to be ok.
So, you go guys!Hello,
day 4. No contact at all from my side.
On day 2 she sent me a message “Hello, how are you doing?” that I completely ignored.
I saw her Facebook wall (my mistake, I know) and she posted a couple of photos of our last travel together (not me in them though).
I’ll stay strong, but it’s incredibly hard sometimes.
Glad to see others following the same process.
Day 43.
One step forward, three steps backwards…
I still miss him. All day long. I’m focused on thinking is he thinking of me as well.
I’m living in memories. Repeating them over and over and over and over in my head. I remember everything- every single little thing I used to take for granted when I was with him.
My head is a limbo. I can’t escape the memories, they’re tormenting me. If only I could quiet my mind. He is always there, in the back of my mind. I’m praying to God every day that He either takes him out of my head or leads him in my life again, because this agony I can’t stand any longer. Either be with him or without him, but then, let my mind be free of him. This is so horrible. I can’t escape even in my dreams, because he’s in them as well.I can’t believe that the same person who gave me so much love, patience and care, would ever put me in this hell. I am so so hurt.
My heart has been wounded far too many times. If I were smart, I would promise to myself never to love again. Love is a loosing game for me indeed. I put so much in love, and got back nothing in return. Love is simply not for me. I would rather be alone and deal with loneliness than give my heart once again, only to let it be broken once more. Every heartbreak destroys me even more. My heart and mind are so scratched and deformed from all the hurting, I hardly believe there is hope for me any more. I am so disappointed in love, life and everything that this world promised me. Life didn’t hold it’s promise. Nothing matters. I am so fucking alone.
@all one: I understand evertyhing you said. I’m dealing with that struggle too. So many projects, so many love and dedication, and it all came down to this.
But, no matter what,don’t think it’s easier not love. It mau sem like it, but one of these days love will come back knocking on your door and this time it’s going to be different! 🙂Day 14
After not being on any form of social media for the past 6 days I decided today was the day I would begin to try to show off my progress and betterment. First thing to pop up on my feed was a mutual friend of ours posting about their trip to Vegas. I went on a search frenzy to find hundreds of pictures of fun in sin city. I don’t even know where to begin to express how terrible of an idea this was but I convinced myself I had to see first hand what transpired on her trip. It was relieving to see everything while not having to guess what had happened but at the same time it brought me back to the memories we shared while also giving me a sense of guilt as to why I would have to see these pictures. We aren’t together so I shouldn’t be concerned even if I’m still in love with her. I had been making so much progress since the breakup. Im back in the gym, going out with friends, have been on a date and have been in better moods. This brought me back a bit. I Would have to grade today as a loss in terms of progress but tomorrow is another day to step forward……….
Thank you, Mia. These are some comforting words.
I’m just sick and tired from all the pain of being abandoned once more. I told my ex 10000 times before we start dating that I’m already damaged good, overly sensitive and that I’d rather be alone than had my heart broken once more. That he doesn’t take me lightly, that I have history of depressions and basicly if we get together and he leaves me, I would be in that dark dark place once more and that I don’t know if I would have strength to pull my self away. I warned him, I really did.
Good job, idiotic me. Now look for the pieces of your broken heart all over again…
@ all one
Work on yourself. Believe me, it is good. I know that you miss him and that you feel devastated, but try to knock that depression out!
Someone new is going to be in your life in no time, but for The time being, concetrate on yourself. Do a change, learn new stuff, work on yourself.I know what you’re going through, but now it’s “me time” 🙂
Allone – Please understand that everything you are feeling right now is completely normal. There’s nothing wrong with you with regards to how you are feeling. But also understand you are internalizing this a bit wrong. You were entering your anger phase by telling us how wrong he was to enter a relationship with you when you really weren’t ready. Go with that for now. Then you go and call yourself an idiot. That’s toxic thinking. You need to understand you are human like anyone else and deserving of love. Don’t blame yourself for taking a chance and trusting someone else. They’re the one that gave up, that screwed up, not you.
I really hope you understand that you deserve better and that you will be ok. Don’t give him the power to make you feel bad about yourself.
If you’re not seeing a therapist, you should consider doing so to help you through this difficult time. I worry that your distress is taking a deep toll on you. If you are truly damaged, then wait until you are better before putting yourself in a situation that could potentially set you back. Enjoy being you for awhile and when you feel secure, confident and empowered, then you will know you are ready and will be armed with the knowledge required to find a partner worthy of your heart, whether that’s your ex or somebody better.I’m on day two after 27 hours. Left him a message asking him to see me then ran 2 miles and blocked him on whatsapp. Unfortunately I can still view when he was last online. I’ve been checking it regularly. 🙁
This is hard
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@Tommys83Hey, an update…after about a year since the break up i can say i have managed to build a stable bridge with my ex; we are hanging out again xD
That is awesome Martin. I am literally just starting NC from a breakup a few days ago. It is hard for me to imagine where I will be a year from now. Not trying to contact my ex girlfriend for even one day feels like an eternity already. It is clear to me though begging/pleading did nothing to help my cause so here I am giving it a go.
Patience is the key, its a lot more complicated than just NC.
I don’t mean to sound negative by any means, and I am actually hoping to find some help within your words, or encouragement.
But since a whole year has passed, how do you know that things will be differently?
I guess I am having a hard time believing myself… My ex and I split. I asked her to come back to me to work things out, and she actively chose her ex boyfriend over me.. I am not sure I could see beyond her choosing another man that she admitted “he won’t ever love her” and “they don’t have passion” over myself.
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