No Contact Advice :(!

hi alexa, i can’t promise anything but, my break up was very similar as my ex just went all out after we broke up, started overdoing social networks, going out everyday, with people i have never seen in my life. i obviously could not confront her about it but when i did it caused more anger than happiness. she never got over me but rather put me aside and tried to just leave that book on the table but not read it. after a while he will be alone and start thinking back at the relationship and decide if it was an amazing one or not. i was lucky that i could send sad messages stating how amazing our relationship and bond was without getting fought with. i finally decided to end the chase because i realised my self worth, thats what you need to do, look at yourself and think, are you really only capable of getting this person or somebody even better than them? doth get me wrong i thought i was the luckiest man alive with my ex BUT as soon as you gain your self worth you’ll realise that you running behind someone or crying everyday is not making a difference to them and they don’t respect you enough to even care.
somehow i told my ex goodbye and now she messages me daily about her whereabouts and what she is up to. this all happened after i gave up chasing and obsessing.

Hi Alexa,

I am in a similar situation! I am doing NC and I’m scared that my ex won’t think of me or is doing perfectly fine without me. NC is good for you to do and that should be your mindset. The fact that my ex probably thinks about me way less than I do about her is upsetting. But as NC progresses, I try to make myself different and better so that when I do see my ex, she’ll notice a change. Your ex might not think of you, but I bet it’s just a case of “out of sight, out of mind.” My ex, I’m sure, rarely thought of me over the summer, but when we hungout (over summer, before NC), she would still fall back into her old ways of calling me pet names or playfully rubbing my back. When I was directly in her presence, and therefore her mind, she treated me differently. I guarantee your ex thinks of you, it’s just different coping methods. What you need your ex to see is you being a happy, positive, attractive person. That will ignite your ex’s curiosity.