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Iv been split up with my bf for 1yr and he is dating someone else for about 6 months, During this time he has come and mown my lawn every week, got a prom car for my daughters prom And Chatted to me nearly every day by text. I did no contact for 30days he tried to contact me but I Ignored him I told him cant be your friend at the moment will contact you when I am ready to, and then 60days no contact. He tried contact again day before his birthday.He stopped contact but still messaged my daughter and put money in her bank for Xmas and birthday. Carried on no contact its now been 120 days.He still buys dog food too.
I have found it hard as it has made me an emotional wreck thats why I have left it so long to do letter.
Have I left it to long to have any chance of getting him back?Kerry
@shernalcoolcat – Since he’s been with another woman for 6 months, it would seem you have no chance. At least not until he breaks up with her and only if he says he wants to get back together with you. Use your time and energy to move on..
Patricia thank you for your reply.
I was with him for nine years and we had split up twice before. In August I said I need to know where I stand he said thought you knew I just want to be friends Iv got you a job mown your lawn got a prom car for your daughter. I said you cant do all those things if you dont care.
He replied I do care or i wouldn’t of done all those things.
I started no contact for a week before I found this site. He kept trying to text me and came and fetched his boots off the porch. I text him saying i know your angry with me but i do love you and care about you. After that we were texting every day.
HE was also on what’s app messaging someone so I decided to not text and see how long it took him to text me. It was a week so I did no contact properly.He tried to contact me 3 days in a row then everyweek to begin with for the first 30 days. For the next 90 days he has been texting my daughter every couple of weeks about something. Xmas eve,boxing day,day after new years eve
He text my daughter who he never liked again last night to see when her driving test is!
Why keep in touch if youve moved on?
This is why Im so confused
I am trying to move on but it is hard.This site has helped me keep sane..
Thank you
@shernalcoolcat – Sorry to hear of 3 breakups in 9 years! Did you ever live together or talk of marriage? All that aside, he’s only interested in friendship.. so if you want a long term romantic partner, you should move on. It doesn’t matter how many times he texts you because it’s only little breadcrumbs dribbling out. Of course he cares about you, but is that enough for you?? You need to decide what you want for the rest of your life! A friend or a loving romantic long term relationship? You might consider contacting him to let him know you don’t want anymore texts and you don’t want him to contact your daughter!! That you appreciate everything he’s done, but your goal is to find a great guy that wants to be your partner in life.
I just found out he got engaged Xmas eve and getting married.
Now I definitely need to move on.
Thank you for all your support
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