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No matter how many times i asked myself i still cant understand how could she do what she did. Date another guy behind my back and then once they were steady dump me and take it as far as she did in no time. And being so public about it…. The daily email the other spoke about consistency.. could this why she is so public with it and moving it so fast? To assert herself that her decision is correct?
This is such a pain.
Will it ok to start posting on instagram again things i been doing and such. we arent friends there so she cant see it and i stop to kinda of have that anonymity around me of she not knowing what i was doing. then again she may be able to see it via mutual friends.
suggestions?
The whole “how could she do that” thing is something you need to get over. You cannot win her back if you still hold a grudge. You need to be able to forgive.
Yes, post all you want on Instagram. It is a great way to show of how well you are doing. She might get the news from a friend, or she might be looking at your profile herself from time to time. 🙂
Well i do forgive her for those actions and im not holding any grudges. I just keep asking myself how and why…
Thanks 🙂
And you are right… i had a million questions and they just vanish when i sit on the computer to type.
As long as you never ask her these questions 🙂
She doesn’t need any “ex moments” with you, and that might also be the reson why she avoids seeing you face-to-face. She is affraid of those awkward “ex moment” that will add to her guilt. By using text she is on safe ground, and has the power to end the conversation if you should start to give her any ex moments.Oh yes that is very clear on my mind. I wont ever ask her those questions nor bring up anything about ex moments.
Thanks you
Great. 🙂
Looking forward to your next update. I think you are on the right path here, and you seem very calm about the situration. Keep it up 🙂Well i believe me i have my moments of were im just down and is hard, just trying to keep my cool about it and taking major steps ahead in life.
Given the case that i think she feels guilty about what she did, should i at some point eventually send her a text? it may seem like a sign that i forgive her about her actions or should i continue to let her be the one to initiate? I know she may get a bit selfconscious about it and maybe not even text again…
Ok thanks. Here is another. She is a bit insecure of herself so the chances of her dropping this guys and staying single are rather slim. What would be the best approach to this?
Here is a more expanded view of my question above.
I know that she regrets being intimate with him and she is ashame and feeling guilty about it and that fact that I know makes her try to avoid me since I know what she did. She knows that what she did hurt me. How can I show being happy when she knows that this particular action hurt me deeply, won’t that show that I don’t care?
What’s is the best course of action here?
That’s being the case she is a bit insecure of herself so the chances to drop this guy and be single are rather slim since she rather not be alone.
What would be the be approach to this?
Sorry for the constant bothering. This are just questions and scenarios I rather be prepared for.
All victory lies in the preparation of the non obvious, thus I want to be ready and think ahead just in case.
Well the last girl I dated was like that, where she had this sort of need to be with someone, eventually even she got so sick of the bs her long term bf of about 2 years gave her that she broke up with him. Keep in mind she was head over heels for this guy for 2 years. So my point is even if she is insecure eventually she will probably break up if the relationship goes south.
With this same girl, the most positive reaction I got was walking away, acting like I didn’t care and going NC. Before NC she claimed she had no feelings and saw me as just a friend, since the start of NC she has made many attempts to contact me, is very emotional when we talk and frankly shows most of the signs of feelings, basically since I am no longer around and act like I do not need her, her interest in me has increased dramatically.
So from my experience, it really does help to walk away and act aloof, it all boils down to getting past it and showing independence and strength of character. She’s not stupid, she knows she hurt you but acting upset about it just shows you can’t be mature and move on, which is a huge turn off and seriously kills your chances. But it’s key to not just act over it but actually work to get over it, you can’t hold grudges and try again with her it will end very badly when the bad feelings eventually come back up.
Well now you are at the same place as me.
We need to stay NC and not care about them. So they think they lost us.
Yet, we still need to show them that we are OK. That there is no hard feelings, and they should not feel guilty. If they want to approach us it is OK.I think the best approach to this is to keep it light every time you meet with her. Flirt with her, good eye contact, good smile, ask about her and be interrested in what she has been up to. But always make sure to keep it short, so she will reach out later on to continue your talk.
Never ever bring up anything about your past or the break up. And if she starts to appoligies for the break up, just wipe it off with a “ahh dont worry about it. You did what you had to do and I dont blame you for anything“.
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