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Quick reminder: I’m 27 years old, she’s 25 years old. We were together for 8 years.
I broke up with my girlfriend a little bit more than a month ago, she said I did not give her the space she deserved. She said that I could go out with my friends without any problem, but when she went out with her friends, I turned cold with her after she was with her friends. To be honest, I am responsible for that. Whenever she came home after being with her friends, I used to get all quiet. Like if I didn’t want to know what she did when she was out. I gotta admit, I was being insecure.
When she broke up with me, I told her that I knew I was wrong, and that I took responsibility for my wrong doing. And I respected her decision. She told me that she wants to be alone for now, and that she wants to prove to herself that she can be happy
without me. That she actually wants to go out and enjoy the time with her friends without worrying of how I was gonna react. Another thing is, we talked a lot about getting married, we had plans, but nothing was happening. Those were my goals, and I am still working towards those goals (finish school in 5 months, and get a better job). I should’ve bought her a ring a while ago to show her that I was serious about it, and that I wasn’t just talking.
Well, I did no contact for a month, ZERO contact! And in that time I realized how I messed up my relationship by being insecure. I’ve been getting together with friends, working, and focusing on school. Improving myself, finding myself.
On Sunday I sent her a txt message just asking how she was doing, that I just wanted to say Hi, and told her to take care. She did not respond. 2 days later, October 14th it was my birthday. I knew that If she ignored my text,she was probably not sending me a happy birthday text. And at around 11:30pm she sent me a text message saying “Happy birthday,
even though we’re not together you know you will always be a very special person to me, best wishes for you”. To which I responded, “Thank you for taking the time for texting me, and for wishing me the best, I really appreciate it, take care”.
I was really surprised that she texted me, I did not expect it, but I really hoped for it. I wanted to say more things, but I stayed strong.
What do you guys think???? What should I do next??? I want to do something to build a connection again, why is she ignoring me??? We ended the relationship in good terms, with a civilized talk. And she is ignoring me like our relationship never happened. I was planning on sending her her favorite flowers to her job on Saturday, with a little note saying, “I don’t expect anything from you, this is just something to show you I still care about you, because you’re in my life even though I’m not in yours anymore”.Please Help ME !!!!! What should I do???
have you started no contact already? if not you need to asap. do 2 months of no contact and go from there. in this time dont stalk her. stay strong. and no dont send her the flowers with the message, it will backfire on you. good luck. 🙂
Thank you for your reply, and the answer is yes, I did one month of NC. She is ignoring me, as if we never were together. I mean, we ended up in good terms, I respected her decision. And all of a sudden is like I never existed for her, like those 8 years never happened. I just can’t let more time pass, I feel like I’m helping her move on instead of getting closer to her.
It’s frustrating.no problem. you need to do another few months of no contact. 2 or 3 more. I know how you feel but she wont forget you if you had that long of a relationship. trust me. have you worked on yourself already? if not you should do that to. you need to let her miss you. a lot of people have to do more rounds of no contact because 30 days is not enough. stay strong you can do this. 🙂 would you mind reading and giving me your opinion on my posting? thanks 🙂
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