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Me and my gf have been together. We split on the 12th of February and haven’t spoken since then. On the 27th of feb I uploaded private convos and went on a rant why I love her so much. Her friend told me on instagram to take it down which I did instantly. I just went to hospital on the 4th of March and found out I had a cyst in my left lung which has cancer. I have been on NC since the 12th of March and I’m not sure if I should contact my gf because I miss her so much and she’s been with me every since my first operation. So should I wait until the 13th of March or contact her ASAP. honestly I miss her so mucb. Thanks guys. And I have this thought always at the back of my mine is she already over me or does it take a long time? . Her friend said it wasn’t my looks.
I also had deactivated all my social media accounts. Not sure if that’s a good move. All been deactivate since the 1st of March
Do you know if she read the rant you posted or had access to it?
Since your relationship was 3 years & since she was aware of your cancer & since you’ve really had no contact with her since Feb 12th, I don’t think a few days early from the 30 day No Contact period would be a big deal. However, she may not believe you & think you are trying to gain sympathy or manipulate her.
If your next medical visit or procedure is after the 30 day period, I would wait the full 30 days & then contact her with a simple message: “may I ask you a simple question?” (I’ve had success with short openers like that) If she says yes, ask her if she wants to be informed of any news concerning your medical condition. If she says yes again, tell her what is happening. Keep it short but then you can ask if she’d like to discuss it in more detail over the phone sometime at her convenience. You will tell by her text replies if she has been thinking about you & cares enough right now to speak to you.
There is a danger in this approach though: once you text her, you will be glued to the phone thinking, when will she text me back, why isn’t she answering, is she ignoring my text, etc… & then your emotions may spiral out of control & you may find you have texted her 3 or 4 more times, each one getting more emotional than the previous. Fair Warning.
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