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My Ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago. I went through the begging and pleading and looking week for over a month and finally decided to do no contact and try to stick to it. He said he had no more feelings for me and that his gut told him our relationship wasn’t right. We were about to move in together at his house and had so many plans. I am devastated. Has anyone had any luck getting their ex back after they were told there was no feelings? Any tips on surviving NC? Thank you everyone.
Did you stop drinking? Lost feelings is bad news, but there are probably some tender feelings left over.. The way you survive is to redirect your thoughts from him to something else and get involved with other activities. Continue no contact for a couple more months and then contact him to let him know how you’ve improved yourself. Feelings can be reignited if the behaviors that caused the breakup are resolved. Guys enjoy the company of women who are upbeat and have positive thoughts about life and love..
Good luck:)I have completely stopped drinking, almost at 2 months now. He won’t talk to me and we don’t really have any mutual friends so he has no idea I’m sure. I want so bad to reach out just to apologize and let him know I take some responsibility for what happened. The last conversation we had over a month ago where I begged again (dumb I know) he said he had been on 2 dates. I told him I had too, which I have but I felt I was only telling him out of feeling hurt and regret that now. I have made it 17 days without reaching out to him and have not heard from home. I have tried to get back out there and do things for myself. I picked up sewing again as a hobby and started back riding lessons on my horses (we had horses together before). I am just struggling and trying to maintain hope.
Go ahead and contact him to apologize and let him know you’ve stopped drinking. Don’t talk about other guys you’ve been dating! I’m glad you are also focusing and enjoy other things:)
I am now on day 24 of NC. I am not sure how to go about apologizing? What is a good opener for that without bringing up bad memories of the past at the same time?
You both have memories of the past that can’t be changed, the good and the bad. An apology will require you to take responsibility for your part in the breakup. You don’t need to list every bad memory, just what you think you did to contribute to his feeling badly about the relationship and his loss of feelings. You can’t avoid the truth if your apology is to be honest. Also tell him what you’ve been doing to improve yourself. You could also include the hobbies you’ve picked up etc..
Good luck:)
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