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So she called 3 days ago while i was at work and i told her i would call her later. She ends up telling me he cheated on her and i was right and she was hurt. I know im not supposed to help her through her break ups but she is my bestfriend and i hate when she is sad so i talked to her all three nights staying on the phone with her till she fell asleep and everything seemed like it was going good. She found out he lied about cheating just so she would leave him alone and now she thinks they can still work. . . After he lied. . .about cheating. Idk why she wants this guy so bad they were only together for close to 2 months and he was her rebound for me. She dropped hints about still loving me and stuff and that she misses me and is so proud of me for getting my life on track yet she still wants this guy. They talked today and she told me they havent decided anything yet and are going to hang out for awhile and see where it goes. At this point my hope is lost and i know what “hanging out” is. This guy is using her and she cant even see it. Im hoping it wont last but im also gunna redeploy no contact. I messed up by not getting to see her in person and letting her use me to talk about her break up. This all just happened and in the romance movies she would realize what she is doing and come running back to me tonight but i really doubt it :/. Idk what else i could do from here besides NC again theres nothing i can say that will make her want me right now cus she still wants this other guy. Help please.?
Yeah, it is really tough to deal with when they want someone else. But there really is no way to convince someone when she wants someone else. As hard as it is, I think you need to step back. Unless you want to just stay friends with her? But then it will be hard to get out of that friendship only spot.
I agree, you should probably step back and do another 30 days. Right now you’re too available for your ex. You are filling in the gaps in the areas where her rebound isn’t fulfilling. You’re providing the supportive boyfriend qualities, yet she is not committed to you or providing you the same girlfriend qualities. If you utilize another 30 days of no contact, she will be forced to start missing you again. She’ll likely start comparing the new guy to you and seeing if he stacks up. Right now though, she has the best of both worlds, so to speak, meaning both of you. Best of luck to you.
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