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Only you know what is really right for you. If I did everything everyone told me to, I’d be going a million different directions at a million different speeds with my ex. My personal opinion is waiting it out a bit longer or sending one more text. And making sure that if that is her reasoning for not answering, that you make it clear it’s not okay and that it takes 30 seconds to respond to a text. I mean, do it nicely, but do it. And if that all doesn’t work, then maybe it is time to run an ultimatum by her. You can’t keep doing this forever.
your right. your advice is very good. thanks 🙂
i just sent her that text. felt i needed to break some ice, there seemed to be some there again.I understand. I don’t think it has anything to do with you, to be really honest. I think her behavior is disrespectful and immature as well, but I don’t think not talking to you has to do with you. I can’t say for sure, obviously, but that’s my thought. I’d just try to relax and not worry too much. Hopefully she gets back to you soon.
she text back, she said shes in the dumps becuase she had her freinds mum’s funeral today. how could i have forgotten it was today and not in two days time. im glad i asked her if shes alright now..
I think that’s sweet of you. I just wouldn’t push her too hard. I also stand by what I said, making sure she knows that this isn’t mature texting/calling behavior. Today clearly isn’t the day, but you need to set those boundaries so this doesn’t happen in the future.
i drew a little cartoon picture of rocket and groot from guardians of the galaxy swinging on his arm, with a “hang in there” lol this should cheer her up a little. ill take a photo and post it over a facebook message
That’s very cute. If I were a girl, I’d like that a whole lot. Just don’t forget to talk to her once this is all over.
so. it happened today. i think we’ve both acknowledged that she just wants to be friends and nothing more and i have to accept that. long story short, it was a bunch of texts and she didnt want to go out to places with me while i still have feelings and that she is giving me a sense of false hope. so i dont know what else to do. for the sake of us, and our friends i also said i am okay with that. and we will go out as friends. and stay best friends. as hard as it will be for me to get over this, it seems i will have to.
ive been insanely busy so im sorry for not replying to peoples posts etc though i have read them up to date.
I’m really sorry, Thargus. That sounds really sad and is not what I was expecting after all of this. If it makes you feel any better, I really messed up too.
well, at the end of the day everything i have been saying is from my point of view i guess. not from hers. she was effectively saying in other words, that i state i want to be friends and that i cant go out with hopes, or she cant come out with me. im going to try and move on pretty quickly and go on a few dates to get my confidence back up.
you never know. i guess i cant hope.. but i do really want to.. that she sees sense if she sees me trying to move on. dammit this is incredibly sad. and of course i still have feelings, its hard for them to just go away. and i don’t think they will as we remain to stay friends and will be something i have to put up with.
maybe i should have just gone no contact for a long time to start with rather than just a month. i tell you one thing, i feel like an idiot. i guess i have learnt a lot but i truly wanted to develop what i have learnt, with her. overcome these things with her. but oh well. i know im always going to be left wondering what if, i wonder if she will as well? i wonder what she actually thinks and feels. i think that some honesty of this comes down to her not wanting to end all of our friendships for the sake of a relationship between us. but there we go.what has happened your end @between1standa?
I just posted two things on my feed, so I’d just go read those. I could REALLY use the insight.
In all honesty, this is a crappy situation for you. But at least you have some idea where you stand now, and you can begin to start to move on. I don’t want to give you false hope, but it does seem to me that she could come back at some point in the future. For now, the only thing to do is just take care of yourself, take what she said as truth, and try to move on. I don’t think she’s going to be thrilled to see you move on though.
ive just got to try. for myself. it sounds weird but i actually feel like im hurting too.
ill go check out your page now my friendIt doesn’t sound weird at all. I’m sure it hurts to finally have some of that closure, even though closure will be best for you in the end. You just need to take really good care of yourself for the next little bit, and focus on things that are good for YOU. She seems to have a history of seeking you out when you do that, so I think that if you do it for longer and without regard to how it affects her, this ultimately could end well. At least in the sense that you two could end up being able to have a solid friendship. I don’t know about anything else. Only time will tell.
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