met up with my ex, what do i do now??

Hey guys!! So as you know I met up with my ex, and he wanted to talk about serious stuff, so I plucked up the courage and asked him….

Turns out, it was not what I expected. He has said that he wants to get back together :O I was completely gobsmacked. COMPLETELY. I told him about how he made me felt, how upset I was, and he said he felt the same and didn’t know why he did it but that it was panic.
He then said how much he missed me, and said can we get back together. I said I don’t know because I was so so hurt I feel extremely wary, and he said I want this for the long run.

Obviously I don’t know what to do! My friends and family dislike him profusely, and I don’t what they will say if I get back with him.

We kissed, and I said that I wasn’t sure and he had to take me out on a date and woo me over…I’m scared!

At this point, a couple of things. First off, congrats Amy! I’m sure this is absolutely terrifying but I’m also really excited for you, given that I know how much you care about him and wanted him back. Second, I think you’re totally right to make him work for it some. I think he ought to have to take you on some dates, prove to you that he’s worth it, woo you, etc. Obviously, if you really think this is going to work out and you want to be with him, don’t push it. But take your time and slowly wade back into this. I think that if you really love him and he can prove he’s changed, your friends and family will/can get over it. No one ever likes the person who dumped someone close to them, but people do get back together. They’ll work through it. For now, just breathe and enjoy the fact that things are working in your favor. You’ve been waiting for this. It’s all going to work out in your favor.

I think the worst thing you can do right now is pretend that neither of you are scared or have concerns. I think the best thing you can do is voice what those things are and tackle how to take care of them together. If everything is out in the open, you can address it and move on in a healthy way. I think everything will work out, especially if you want to be able to get back together. You just HAVE to be able to talk about things like this or you’re doomed from the start. In terms of sleeping with him, that also just needs to be talked about. Mutually decide if you guys are okay with it at this point, and if you’re not, then just hold off for a bit. One bit of sex isn’t going to completely blow this.

Thargus, you already sent multiple texts. I know you feel bad and all, but maybe you should just let it be… And if she is gonna treat you like this all the time (being great with you, and then ignore you again) maybe you should have a definite talk or move on? I’m sure it’s so painful to you :/ you don’t deserve it you seem like such a nice guy

How can I unfollow this post ? I tried to help you guys but you don’t really look at my answes and don’t answer mine LOL it looks like a Little private group chat between 3-4 of you..

wanthimback, perhaps we haven’t answered you because I can’t even find a thread for you, I don’t remember you commenting at all, and because we’re here to help each other and comment when we can, not because there’s a commitment to? I don’t respond to Thargus with the assumption that he’s automatically going to be helping me with my situation. I do it because I want him to know what his best options are and to have an outside perspective on how things are going.