met up with my ex, what do i do now??

That sounds like a really good day, Thargus! Things seem to be on track exactly like you want them to be. I’d just keep up with the being friendly and attentive when she’s in contact, but stick to low contact and not constantly messaging her when you’re apart. Well done, though! I’m jealous!

If you’re being 100% honest about how things are going and you aren’t giving us overly optimistic details, I think it’s heading in the right direction. I think the only difficult thing about this board is knowing whether people are being truthful or whether they’re framing things in the way they want to see them. That being said, from what I’ve read, they seem to be shaping up. I just don’t think an ex is going to want to do all those things and spend that time with you if she doesn’t care. It just doesn’t make sense. I’m glad you’re patient, as that’s not always my strong suit, but I really think it’s going to benefit you in the long run. Would you mind reading over my post and letting me know what you think if you get a sec too? No pressure. I left Amy the link.

I guarantee you’re overthinking things. We all are! It’s okay. The important thing is whether or not that overthinking is overly optimistic, to the point that it is giving you false hope. In your case, I think you’re doing a good job of trying to remain optimistic while also not going overboard to the point that it would be devastating if things don’t work.

That totally makes sense. Because of that, I think time and waiting it out is really what’s going to get you somewhere. And if you feel like you can’t keep waiting at a certain point, then it’ll be time for you to bring it up. But for now, things seem good so just try to be patient and happy 🙂 I know things could be better and you could already have her back, but things could also be a lot worse!

Well done thargus!! So happy to hear that!! 😀

I wish I was at your stage!! 🙁

Between 1standa I’ll read your post after my breakfast 🙂

I spoke to my ma and she said maybe text him today or tomorrow as we met up a week ago? But then I remember what you said! Ahhhh!

That’s certainly a possibility, I won’t deny it. However, if he was seeing a new girl and sleeping with her, I see very little reason he’d continue to be in contact with you in the way he is. Also, you’re friends with his sister and it seems like she’d tell you if something was going on. Otherwise, she’s a pretty poor friend, in my humble opinion.

Only text him if you really think it’ll benefit you or you’re really dying to. I made that mistake last night (sort of) and it’s biting me today. I have a big update from yesterday and I’m dying to hear from you guys or talk to someone new about what happened. I’m kind of freaking out.

If that was something you genuinely talked about, you could send him a picture of a car. It may not yield anything, but it at least doesn’t look like some desperate, half-assed attempt to get him to talk to you by bringing some random topic up.

He hasn’t contacted you, but you also haven’t contacted him 😛 I know that’s the point of NC, so not pointing fingers. I’m just saying that I always tend to get a response from my ex when I start the conversation, but he rarely initiates anything, even if he wants to talk. I could be wrong, but I still stand by thinking one of them would be in contact to let you know what’s going on if he were seeing some new girl.

I just posted a super desperate update… Can you go read that and give me some feedback? Sorry I didn’t get that posted before you replied…

I’m so sorry for begging, but I’m so desperate. I can’t tell if I completely messed things up and today is going to be terrible, or if all the explanations my friend gave me for what they think he’s doing are could be correct.

It’s in two posts because I remember a detail I forgot to include.

Yeah, knowing he’s with friends or other people always makes me want to communicate with my ex more because I want him to give me the attention and not them. I would try not to read into it too much. If he always replied when you started conversations, it’s a good bet he just is having some issue with starting them himself. Or, like I said, there’s just really not much to talk about at the moment and he knows that.