Limited Contact. No Contact. What to do..?

LAbound, you were kind answering to me and I wanted to help you too, so I read your posts.
In fact I found a few similarities in behavior of you girlfriend and myself when I was living with my ex. And both relationships were 8y long. So I will just give you my opinion, but as you can see I am defiantly not an expert on this stuff. This is just me trying to tell you her view on this situation. Cause I get this girl.
She just doesn’t know what she wants at the moment, she left for another person cause it was easy for her to attach to him after having sex with him, and you were the person she was attached to for 8y in that way. But it’s just an illusion for her, and she figure that quickly, she doesn’t love this person. She feels quilt for this trust me, but you kept perusing her and now she is thinking you will always be there, waiting for her. She is taking you for granted, thinking of you like safe option. She knows she can have you whenever she wants and you know this is true.
At the moment her animal instinct is working not her emotions. She seeks the best possible option for herself. And this she could not do before cause, you were in a long-term relationship. And you were her center. This behavior is natural. That is why she left the first guy so quickly and moved to the next.
And I think this is what she wants, you to be that best option, the cache is, you probably are, but she cannot see that because she still thinks of you like you belong to her, because you lost her, she never lost you. She can’t see how it is to be without you. Once she does she will realize that she made a mistake.
So my advice, remember the little stuff she complained about you and that she wanted you to improve in yourself, and do that stuff to become a better person yourself and for her to see, (do not tell her about any of this) but this time when she realizes who you are and who you become, you are not going to be her property anymore, you’re not going to show any interest in her. The best option is for you to find someone else too, someone to shake her to the core, and slap her in the face; you have to literally scare her. She must fear that you no longer love her. I think only then she will come to her senses. Cause now she in fact doesn’t know what she is doing or what she wants.

Make her realize that she wants you.

I knew it! Now just figure out your further behavior, and be determined. I wish you all the luck and I hope we both get our loved ones back ^___^
You didn’t mention how old are you and your ex? 🙂