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So .. I’ve been doing the NC role for a week now ..
quick feed back :
We were together for three years ..at the last one of them .. we were on and off .. usually he’s the one who breaks up with me .. and after 2 weeks .. he contacts me as a friend then after a while ..he tells me he loves me .. 2 months together .. and then we break up again for same reasons!
Last time .. we went away together before i told him i love him “he said it first as usual” .. spend 2 awesome days .. all romantic and he threw me a surprise party .. and we agreed on staying friends .. who loves each other .. until we work out our relationship .. when we got back .. after 2 days .. he told me I’m putting too much pressure on him .. and we should be just friends .. and never work on our relationship again !!.. i yelled at him and told him this is our last conversation and i want him out of my lifr.. and told him he’s the worst boyfriend ever .. ended up by being blocked on all social media and phone ..
so .. one week with out contacting him ..
During this week .. my ex’s gay best friend .. is talking to me on Facebook .. almost every day ..
today ..he told me he’s going to my bf’s place .. so .. i asked him how is doing ..
he said that my ex hasn’t mentioned me at all .. so .. i said .. ok .. he’s probably forgotten about me .. he told me .. yeah .. i think he’s over you for a while !!
it has been a hard week for me .. and i miss him so much ..
what should I do?
P.S: my boyfriend’s best friends thinks the idea of us getting back together is the worst idea ever .. and he doesn’t want to see us together ever again .. 🙁P.p.s: usually after he breaks up .. i do all the deadly mistakes .. then starts the NC .. but this time .. i texted him ALOT on the before our fight .. then apologised for my yelling next day .. and started the Nc
oh my what a mess. can I ask you a question without it being or sounding rude. ok you said his friend is gay right? do you think your boyfriend could be bi? why would his friend say that to you? that was really mean. could he like your ex? its just this whole situation sounds weird to me. also I think you should do no contact for like a month in a half he seems very upset if he blocked you like that. work on yourself and dont stalk him. then go from there. hope this helps.
I would suggest you to stop talking to his friend. Your ex might be frustrated. And doesn’t want to talk about it. I had the similar situation so I can tell you well. Just don’t talk to his best friend and remember he is not your beat friend but his. He is going to tell him eberything and might give you wrong messages. I would say don’t include any third person in your relationship as it will make it worse.
And his best friend is no one to decide if you both should get back together or not.
Continue with NC and work on the issues due to which you both always broke up.
When his frustration will go, he’ll contact you. Till then work on yourself.IDK .. but all of his 3 closest friends hate me as his girlfriend ..but still contact me as a friend!!.. and they even had a fight with him because he wanted to go away with me ..
But this guy is talking to me daily ..
i mentioned he’s gay to make it clear he doesn’t have a crush on me “like thier other friend” ..
but he’s being so mean to me when i talk about him 🙁
and I don’t think my ex is bi .. he’s straight ..Thanx Divjun ..
This guy is talking to me as a friend .. and he doesn’t want to get evolved in our problems .. but he always tills my ex that we should not get back together .. and he has a bad influence on my ex 🙁
And I’ll continue the NC role .. but I’m afraid that he’ll not call or even answers me anymore 🙁ok so this makes better sense. why would his friends hate you as his girlfriend but not as a friend? could it be that they are mad hes taking time away from them to give to you and they dont like it? and one of his friends doesnt like you as his girlfriend because he likes you? wow. yeah like divjun said you should stop talking to his friend. do no contact till he calms down and take this time to work on yourself. take it day by day. you both just need space right now.
@aamls
BTW ..
He always block me when we broke up .. and i do the same .. i blocked him too .. on phone social media and IM ..
not the first time :$You shouldn’t worry about if he would text or not. You should focus on yourself and do NC. For your own peace, stop talking to his friend. Even if it seems rude, just stop talking to him without saying a word.
@aamls
thanx..
but he’s friends hates us together because we fight ALOT
especially on the last days before we break up .. and they says we’re more happy when we broke up .. and they say it’s a mistake .. 🙁@divjun
I’m focusing on myself ..
got a job interview next week ..
Preparing for my master’s exam next month .. “i hope i get accepted”
And going to gym ..
but still .. i can’t get him out of my head 🙁
And i keep thinking .. he is over me .. and he doesn’t love me anymore 🙁no problem, 🙂 oh my that sounds horrible. but it does make sense. I see. but why would you both block each other? i agree with divjun you should stop talking to his friend. continue no contact. 🙂
Actually .. IDK why .. he blocked me the 3rd time we broke up this year.. so i blocked him too.. then he did something wrong .. and i blocked him for a while ..
It always ends by me unblocking him .. so within the next 24 hours he talks to me .. or by me texting him ALOT .. till he unblocks me
i think it’s habit .. and because we are tired of all the yelling and this stuff 🙁I see thats really bad. I think you should do no contact. and you both need to work on your issues or your both gonna keep having this pattern. you both need to break it. so if you work on yourself then after a while he’ll see changes in you and then start to change with time. good luck and keep us posted. 🙂
I’m working on myself .. but when we get back .. I feel like he doesn’t appreciate it .. and keep doing the same annoying things .. so .. at our first fight .. he stops spending much time with me ..start being a jerk again .. then .. I’m back to were i was before because of anger .. 🙁
It’s bad I know ..
but .. I spent the most incredible 3 years with him .. and right before he blocked me .. I asked him .. if he still have feelings for me .. he said yes .. but there not enough .. and they are like 1% ..
and when we were together last time .. he told me .. he’s in love with me .. but doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore .. 🙁
and I don’t even know what does that mean ..
And I’m losing faith in my case .. I think i don’t have any chance with him 🙁And his friend told me .. that he told him that he regret that we got back the last time .. and it was a mistake .. but he wanted to give us a last chance ..
after that we get back together as friends .. and broke up like i said on the post ..And when we was together last time .. I was browsing his photos on whatsApp .. and there was photos of this new friend he has .. so.. i opened the folder .. and saw photos of me and him .. that was sent to her.. i told him that i want to see what they were talk about .. so i read the conversation .. he told her .. we broke up a year ago .. i asked him about this .. and he told me that he told her so .. because he didn’t want to explain how things went between us ..
i thought that he’s into her .. but in the convo .. she said “bro” to him ..
so what does that mean?
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