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Give it some time…he broke my heart so many times that i am getting better…i have lost the hopes of getting him back and that is why i live my life more do what i like…its not about them its time for us to change and be happy with or without them…yess i miss him alot..but life becomes easy when you accept that u will never get them back !!
I know. It’s really hard to just accept that right now :/ I truly thought that there could be a chance and I’m pretty annoyed that he said we could talk at New Year’s and everything. He said that it was true then but it has now been TWO months instead of ONE and I was like ??? that’s still not really that much time. I’m so annoyed and upset and I feel so sick. I really want to forget about him and move on but I really don’t know how. It’s sooooo painful and I’m lucky to have a lot of people to talk about it with. But I just know that in two years I will still feel like contacting him and idk if that’s the right thing to do. I know I need to just let him go, but that pull to talk to him will always be there. And maybe I do just need to be ‘mates’ with him because then at least his in my life. I know it will be really hard for me and I will always be hoping for more, but at least I will get to see him smile and make him laugh once more. Even though I wouldn’t be able to hold him in my arms, at least we could have a good time together??? I really don’t know. I only know that I have to leave it for a while now. A good six months or so. I have to throw myself into moving on from him completely and try to forget about him. The annoying thing is that quite often as soon as you’re over someone, you hear from them -_- So I hope that doesn’t happen. Like, half of me wants to be friends with him still but the other half just wants to move on and never speak to him again. I guess for now I have to go with the never speaking to him again side because I know that he doesn’t want to hear from me and he wants me to move on. It’s just so hard when I’m feeling so miserable after having that little inkling of hope :/
Oh my my dear, I’m feel so sorry that you are going through this babe. 🙁 You don’t deserve all this pain at all. And please please don’t blame yourself for having hope , because you really did loved him that’s why. I have an instinct that his relationship is probably a rebound,and he was saying all those words like ‘we will never be healthy together’ because that’s what he convince himself to believe it’s the reason behind everything while it not necessary is . Since he is in a relationship now, that girl is all in his mind. He thought she’s gonna be better he thought they are gonna be better as a pair. But they only started dating but you both have been together for so long. It’s really not so easy you know, to build so much with someone, to be able to connect in so many ways with someone. He is blinded by the fake reality I tell you. :/
It’s such a shame of him that he chose to walk away just like that. It’s his loss losing you. He’ll never find someone that love him this much as you do. And he fact that he is willing to meet you up, means that he really still does care in a way, but he is also at the same curious of the other ‘option’. That’s why he convince himself that you guys will never be healthy because you know what! That’s how to get through all this. That’s how he endure all this. I think he never really got over you after all. But young guys are like this, even they know deep in their heart what is the best, they don’t want to settle down just yet without experiencing more. Sadly, this is the truth. It’s completely a different concept from us woman. At least most of us.
So I would say the best thing you must do now is move on. Leave him behind. Let him be. I know it must be really hard but at least you have a clearer vision now right babe? 🙁 If he truly does love you and you both are meant to be, you paths will definitely cross again in the future. But right now you must move on with you life dear. Don’t wait for him anymore. But it’s okay to still deserve a place for him in your heart. He is ..just like a ghost now. The memories will linger but he’s not there anymore.. go on with your life and make the best out of it. He walk away from you and you should do the same.. it doesn’t mean that you give up, it just mean that you will move on knowing that you had try your best. If you try too much it may end up them getting closer.. so the best bet is disappear from his life. He’ll seriously feel bad one day, for doing this to you. He’ll regret but when he do come back, you may not be there anymore. You must stay strong alright! 🙁 No matter what decision you make I will support you mentally with all my heart. Here’s a quote for you babee:
At some point you will realise that you have done too much for someone, that the only possible step is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It’ not that you’re giving up. It’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from anything that won’t help the situation now. What’s truly yours, will eventually be yours and what’s not , nomatter how hard you try , will never be.
Cry all you want babe.. but remember to pick yourself up dear 🙁 The sun is still shining the Earth is still spinning. But it would be a better place if you’re smiling. Check out a song ‘ Baby Don’t Cry – Daesung ‘ Even if you don’t like the song look at the lyrics. It speaks to my heart when I feel devastated. I have hope that my life is getting better and I will take this opportunity to grow up. And just trust in fate. I’ll be here if you need me! You can ask Kevin for my email!
Yes. I still do really love him. It would be so much easier if I could hate him, but I never could. It hurts soooo bad. I didn’t expect this to happen – at least not this soon. I’m not sure if it’s a rebound or not. I feel kind of bad but I’m sort of waiting for them to break up because I’m convinced that it’s not going to last. But really I have no idea. She might be the love of his life :/
I am giving up on him for now. Not completely as he will always be in my heart. But I am not going to speak to him for the longest time possible. I think my friend/s will let me know if he breaks up with her, but even then I don’t think I should speak to him. I have to truly wait a long time until I am completely over him and have put these negative feelings I have towards out of my mind. At the moment, I am so hurt by him that I don’t think I could ever forgive him. But I know that I probably will. It annoys me so much that he just thinks he can get away with this. Why does he think it’s okay to just hurt me.
I am sure this is just how he is dealing with everything. Maybe he was feeling lonely and this is why he feels this ‘connection’ with the girl. Because he doesn’t know what else to do. It’s the only way he is able to deal with the negative emotions that he has. Also saying that it is unhealthy is the only way he can deal with all the guilt. He doesn’t want to look like the bad guy, but the truth is that he is.
I wish I had just left it and been cool about it all. Then I could possibly still ask him to hang out in October, with the knoweldge that he has a new girlfriend. I would just be prepared and wouldn’t flirt, just be friendly and make myself as attractive and happy as possible. But I threw that out the window when I asked him to come round and talk to me. I don’t know why I did it. He did say that he broke up with me because of the light switch etc. And said that I don’t know how to handle my emotions and he doesn’t know how to handle his anger. He had to leave because it was getting too emotional for him, and I feel like that is how he is handling life. I feel like if he keeps running away from all the true feelings in life then he will never be happy.
My dream is that one day he will wake up and realize what he has done is a mistake. He will realize that I truly loved him ad that maybe he still loves me too, despite everything. But it will be too late and I will have moved on without him. Then he will get what he deserves. He isn’t feeling anything properly because he just gets stoned and drunk and pushing them to the side so I just think he will end up a complete mess when the emotions finally catch up to him. If there’s one thing that I’ve learnt in life, it’s that you have to truly FEEL every single emotion. Whether it’s anger or happiness, sadness or absolute joy. You have to be in the moment and think about how you are truly feeling.
I feel bad for the girl but I truly don’t want this relationship between them to work out. I feel like he still cares enough to visit me, and he cares enough to get angry and make up excuses, which may mean that he could possibly be still in love with me. It’s impossible to get over someone that quickly. Sure, he has ‘moved on’ but I don’t think that he has gotten over me. I think there is a difference, and that will be the downfall of their relationship because he does have emotional baggage that he hasn’t dealt with properly.
I hope I’m not coming across as too desperate or anything, that is just truly how I feel the situation is going and what he is thinking. This is all speculation and assumptions but I know him better than anyone in the world (except maybe his own mother).
Anyway, at the moment I don’t feel like I could ever want to be with him again. Especially as I don’t think he will ever want to either. But at the end of our conversation, just as he was leaving my house he said ‘Maybe if we both change A LOT COMPLETELY that is the only way we will have a chance together.’ And I don’t think he should have said that because it has given me that tiny little bit of hope back and it’s frustrating.
For now, I’m going to focus on myself. Then in the future, maybe after a few years, I may try and get in contact with him and see where we stand. Because I know I will still love him, even if I’ve had other relationships or if he has had others. And I would just like the chance to talk about everything while I’m not so involved in the situation and upset about everything. I feel like I could try and redevelop a connection but I shouldn’t look forward to that day too much and just do it when it feels right. I need to wait a really long time, because at the moment he has hurt me way too much that I don’t even want to hear his voice.
It just really upsets me because I never thought it would come to this. I didn’t think we would be nearly shouting at each other and that he could make me feel even more pathetic and small than I already did.
All I know is that my only option now is to move on. I’m trying my hardest to do that, I’m just not 100% sure how. I don’t think I will find someone else for a very long time, because it just wouldn’t feel right – and I secretly hope that his new relationship is a bit like that too. ANYWAY time to stop focusing on him!!!!! It’s hard but I’m trying to say to myself that he’s an asshole and I don’t need him in my life anymore. I wish I could just stop thinking about them together. That would make it a lot easier. And I really want to move away, because him living just round the corner makes me feel so upset and uneasy. I know I could run into him anywhere around here -_-
I would love to ask Kevin for your email but I’m not really sure how you go about doing that? I’m happy to still just keep talking on this thread, but if you don’t want to then let me know?? Sorry if this reply was a bit rambly – I just have a lot of feelings at the moment!!!Also, I’ve been reading something that Sri sent me on facebook. It’s a guide to re connect with your ex and I’m thinking about doing that in a few years if I still feel the same way towards him. Maybe by then, I will see that I don’t need him in my life, but if not then I might try to implement those techniques. I’m not sure. I guess I don’t have to make up my mind. I will just see when the time comes.
The words ‘we just clicked’ keep swirling around in my head :/ it hurts so much to hear him say that over and over. I’m hoping it’s a rebound but I’m not going to know that for a while. I can’t believe this is happening.
Aww babe 🙁 First let me give you a virtual hug.. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Btw I meant I want to give you my email so you can contact me easier and we can be able to chat easier. I wanted to add you both in FB to but then when I search Sri’s email nothing came out I don’t know why. 🙁
Anyway babe. I feel that there is no guarantee that their relationship may be a long lasting relationship or not. But also you shouldn’t live with the thought that it’s gonna be a rebound because it’ll only lengthen your healing process. And I feel that moving on for now and disappear from his life would be the best bet for your happiness, either he’ll realise and come back or you finally found someone who really deserve you. Seriously, he’s not over you. He was just avoiding everything and thought what he have now is the better. He has no idea he was so wrong and there are many definite signs that it’s a rebound. So just disappear for now and think it as, it’s the best solution for the long term.
It’ll leave an impression of you on him that you don’t need him, and you won’t wait for him like a fool. Being able to walk away is attractive, I guess I could say. But like you said, it may end up be the love of his life , or not. It’s a 50/50. But if you leave it here, any further negative impressions can be prevented. Guys are attracted to girls that can be independent and those that want to strive for their own dreams. So by walking away , you’re in a way in the process and getting back together . Either it’s a few months later, or the next year/s. What it yours, will eventually be yours. That is what I’ve learned so far.
I’m afraid too that my ex may be in a relationship. My heart aches to even think of that. I bet you’re feeling so bad worse than me.. I’m here for you babe. 🙁 But I also reach that point to realise that. : ‘Well, if he can forget about me SO EASILY, after everything we’ve build together in 3 years, then he FUCKING DON’T DESERVE ME. Enough is enough. It hurts now but if I let myself endure the whole process again and again, not only it wont change anything but it’ll only make me look pathetic. When he is the one who don’t deserve my love. And I hope the best for him that he’ll find someone that love him as much as I do! -_-‘
I just wished I could physically be there for you when you need someone. 🙁 Anyway I hope my words can help you , even just a little. I’m be so glad already. I have no idea if I’m progressing on my situation , He haven’t talk to me . But he liked a video of a dog I posted in FB. I guess it doesn’t mean anything more than that. Maybe I’ll ask him out after my exam which is in end of October. And tell him things i WANTED HIM to know, don’t care if it’ll push him away or what because I’m tired of mind games! At least, I’ll be able to move on easier. Although sometimes I have the thought that he missed me too and he was just as sad as I am. But another part of me thought that he may have don’t give AF about US anymore and everything were just memories. And we’re nothing but strangers with memories. 🙁
It suck. Everything freaking suck. But I’ve learn that one can pick up my broken pieces beside myself. So do you my friend. He hurt you too much. He doesn’t deserve your love anymore babe 🙁
My ex is so distict towards me…as if he hates me alot!!!!
He doesnt care anymore1!!!
Woahh good for himm
Tell someone that you love them for years and then all of a sudden you lose your feelins
I feel so sick and angry
He is a completely different person to me now!!!It is very irritatins sometimes
That you are putting so much effort for someone only to get rejected and neglectedThank you moonbunny <3 What is your email? You can add me on facebook as well. I wonder why you couldn’t find sri? 🙁
I know. I keep hoping that this is just a rebound and that it will all mess up for them completely. But for some reason I just get the feeling that he really has moved on and isn’t making a mistake. Maybe she is the one for him. I’m not going to know for a while. Even though it’s selfish, I can’t help wishing that everything will go sour for them both. He will expect her to be more like me etc. Because how can he not compare the two relationships? It’s crazy.
I’m trying not to think of him at all but it’s sooo hard. Especially when all I can picture is her in his arms :/ I don’t know what she is like or anything. Only that they ‘clicked’. So there is no way of knowing whether she is completely different to what he usually goes for or not. I looked at her profile on facbeook only once, just to see what she was like but I couldn’t really find anything out. I think she’s kind of pretty but my friend said it’s a ‘major downgrade’ which made me laugh.
Yes, I believe the most attractive thing I can do now is to just walk away from the situation and stop caring about him, because clearly he doesn’t care about me. I wish that I hadn’t asked him round to talk now, because I know I would’ve come across as desperate and needy. I still believe all the things that I said in the above post but I also know that I need to accept the fact that they may be together forever, or a long time. Once I get that into my head, I can start to move on myself.
Maybe one day when he sees that I am happy without him he will feel bad. I think he already feels quite guilty, and I may have made him feel worse when I invited him round (that wasn’t my intention – I just wanted some answers like what happened to talking at New Year’s etc). I can just go on and live my life now. I’m really looking forward to doing some travelling so I can’t wait till I’ve saved enough money to go exciting new places. At the moment, I just have to focus on working, saving up the money and in my spare time becoming a better person. I’ve also got lots of inspiring TV shows to watch that help me feel happy and distract me from my own situation. And, like we’ve said before music always helps a lot.
At least now I know exactly what I’m going to do. I know that I HAVE to move on and I’m no longer wondering what he thinks of me. I hope that I didn’t come across and too desperate or that he really hates me now. I didn’t mean to make his life miserable. As he was leaving he told me to sleep with as many people as I like and go out and do crazy stuff. But I still feel like deep down, if he heard that I was sleeping with lots of people, he would be hurt. I think the only reason he said that to me was so he could justify it to himself. And he knows that I’m not going to go and do that. I’m not a crazy individual haha.
But anyway, I hope things are feeling better for you both <3 I think it would be a good idea to speak to your ex at the end of October after your exam. That way you will know for sure where you stand. That is the one good thing that has come out of this ;___; I know that I have to move on now, as hard as that is to accept. No matter what happens I will always be here to listen. Maybe before you talk to him you could write a letter of everything that you want to say to him, don’t send it, just write it out for yourself. Everything will be okay in the end, for all of us <3 Now I can just move on to bigger and better things :’)Wow such a tough situation! I read some of your story because you have alot of posts. Do you actually think you and your ex are compatible? He smokes weed and it seems like you hated it. I think this fact alone had a major negative impact on your relationship. Guys have such sensitive and huge egos even if they don’t admit it-All of them do. It crumbles as soon as their girl tells them that they don’t like something about them. Does his new woman smoke weed?
If so and she accepts him for who he is as a person, then that’s one of the reasons he would say they ‘just clicked’. I hate to say it but rebounds can be very strong relationships. Rebounds aren’t always short-like my sister and 2 of my friends married their rebound lol. Mainly because the new relationship gives them whatever things the last relationship didn’t have. That’s one of the reasons rebounds work.
As for the whole New Year’s thing, I can tell you that he wasn’t serious about it. A lot of guys say that to their exes-“we can talk in the future and see where things are then”…it’s a common line so they don’t feel like such assholes after breaking up with their girl. And since it gives the girl hope, it means the guy has to deal with less drama because the girl isn’t freaking out so much about the breakup.
Aww @scatteredtracks 🙁 Now I seriously feel that your ex is a jerk who just choose to avoid everything just because he don’t want to deal with emotions. I know, guys hate that. My ex once admit that before to me, that he hated when we quarrel even about small stuffs. What sunshineflower said is somehow true 🙁 But also, if they really ‘clicked’ at the moment it may be possible that it’s just an ‘at the moment’ relationship. I’m saying this based on my personal experience. You see I was talking to a guy after the break up ( about a little more than a month ago) I aim nothing more then just someone to chat, because I was feeling lonely. I wanted to get to know someone else. But then we just ‘clicked’. We like the same music, and we always talk about it, we chatted the whole day, he tell me his work schedule and places he’s going , treating me like his gf, we even planned of hanging out and even planned of cuddling when we meet and created our ‘cuddle playlist’. We even planned to go gym together and he wanted to be my coach! LOL. I was even starting to forget about my ex.. To me it kinda feel right too at the moment. I was even thinking about that guy throughout my day! ‘___’ We were flirting.. he said he would love to play me a song with his guitar and cook me spagetti.. al right I’ll stop this nonsense TMI haha!
Then all of a sudden something come up in my mind and then I was thinking : ‘ Wait, this doesn’t feel right. No, this isn’t right at all! ‘ Then I started to ignore his texts, giving him neglecting replies. Then we stopped talking, because I guess he could feel it, that I don’t want to have any connection with him any more. As I think back I realised I was actually just distracting myself from the thought of my ex. I really miss my ex after all, and I was depending on this other guy and treat him as a ‘substitution”. Although I admit I have some good feelings for him but yeah, nothing more than that. Of course we did ‘click’ or else we wouldn’t even continue to chat, but the thing is, this kind of feelings are come and go just like a freaking tornado. It may feel so right when it hit you, but it won’t last forever, the tornado will pass and that’s when you realise the rain is still falling above you.
So I’m saying that your ex may be feeling like what I was feeling back then. I mean there is possibilities that he is feeling this way. Luckily for me I picked myself up in time.. because I don’t want to end up hurting another person and hurting myself at the same time. I’m a person who will give a lot in love. That’s why this cut is so deep. 🙁 So don’t worry too much babe, focus on finding yourself again and the Sun will start shining again , brighter than ever. He may be just so blinded by everything that’s why his telling you things like ‘you should go date other people’ so to make himself feel better.
But life moves on and we shouldn’t linger or wait for someone who just walk away on us. It’s not that we give up everything. But we must move on and leave the past behind and focus on the future. Strive for ourselves. ‘What will be will be. ‘ Such a common quote but has meaning deeper than the ocean. So for now keep moving forward babe, you deserve that beautiful smile on your face love <3
As for me, I’m missing him all of the sudden now. During midnight. As I was watching videos in Youtube I heard something feel on the floor : It was the note he left at my room 2 years ago. It made me think back to that moment.. We were supposed to go to an event together. It was a social event at a state quite far away from ours. There were prom nights and we were so excited as it’s the first time we’re gonna attend a prom together. And we share the same group of friends so we thought everything would be so awesome. Turns out he can’t go at the last minute, so does all his guy friends. ( It’s a club event , we were both joining the same club but under different admin ) He was devastated that when we meet up before I leave, he cried in front of me, saying he’ll miss me so much. I know it sounded childish, but I know he was just dissapointed, that we weren’t able to do all the things we’ve planned to do when we go there. 🙁 I was just as devastated..
So as the event falls on my birthday, he was even sadder as he can’t celebrate it with me. Then there comes that day when I leave our state and go to that event for 3 days 2 nights. He was so emotional those days. He even simply just wish me a ‘Happy Birthday baby’ when the clock strikes 12 that night. I called him but he didn’t even want to pick up his phone. I was so sad that I become moody the entire trip. He was still texting me all along and say things like : ‘I hope not many guys will look at you, I would be so jealous. ‘ As it was practically, a rave-like prom night. I was jumping so hard with my high heels I even sprained my ankle lol..
Okay so the event ended and me and my friends sat the bus that took hours to reach home. And when I open my room door , tears came running down my cheeks : It was full of colourful notes decorated all around my room. And on my bed, was a blouse he personally picked for me :’) With a card and couple phone pluggies he picked for us .. I was so touched I cried in front of my dad >.< Because he weren’t close with my family yet at that time so he took the courage to text my dad and asked if he can do a surprise for me in my room. It must have took him a lot of courage lol 🙁
From the notes he was sharing with me his inner feelings since I left, to random ‘I Love Yous’ and ‘I Miss Yous’. He said in his notes that he doesn’t want to pick up his phone when I called is because he was crying. He was missing me so bad because he wanted to be the first person to wish me in person.. He was shedding tears as a man.. for me 🙁 Ahh…sorry for this long story! I was just reminiscing all our times together. At this late hour, I just know that he really did love me. Maybe he still does deep down.. But life got into the way I guess.. we had so many good times together. There were no bad times except towards the end. They were nothing compared to the good 🙁
I really miss us :’) I’m sure he did too. After our break up, I don’t want to look too much into the signs that he’s still interested or not and things like that. because I don’t want to get hopes and hurt myself again. I’m still focusing on the future still! 🙂 You should do the same alrighty. Thank you for reading my long long post <3 I bet you both was really in love before too. We just have to leave it to fate in the end and move on . It’s the best mindset we can adapt for now I’m sure 🙂
For me, maybe I’ll initiate chat with him after my exam if he didn’t. Maybe ask him out and catch up and tell him things I want him to know. I’m know I’m not hoping at all that we’ll be getting back together this soon though. But I wanted him to know that I want he to strive for his dreams too. we should strive for our dreams together. If we’re meant to be, then we’re meant to be. Simple as that.
How are you doing today babe? 🙂 I hope your day goes well <3 And I’ll try adding sri again in the morning! My eyes are closing *.*
Hi @sunshineflower I think everything that you’re saying is right. My ex /changed/ who he was when we were together. And I don’t know why. I didn’t ask him to do anything of this. But he stopped smoking weed because he thought it would make me happy. Because of other factors I still wasn’t as happy as he expected so after about a year and a half after giving up he started doing it all the time. (At the beginning of the relationship I think he smoked a little bit for about eight months before he gave up for me). He also acted like a completely different person. He was always pretty selfish and sometimes he could be a bit rude but I never realized that he could be downright cruel. After all, it SERIOUSLY wasn’t my fault that he had changed so much about himself. I never asked him to do that and to lie at the world. He really hurt me when I spoke to him the other day because he said something like: ‘You don’t like my friends, well your friends are queer and all I ever wanted to do was smoke.’ I don’t know why he pretended like it was fine. I honestly thought that he was happy spending time with me and doing fun things together. Know I feel awful because it was like I was making him live a lie. He said we could still be good mates, but honestly I don’t want to do anymore. I’m not even sure if I can be friends with this side of me. I know the most healthy thing to do would be to accept that he is not good for me and move on. But because I love him so much, at least the him that I knew, I still might contact him in a few years. Because this might just be something he has to get out of his system and one day he might realize that he was happy as the person that I was with? It’s like there’s two sides to him. My mum and I were discussing it the other day and we think he’s confused about who he really is as well. Maybe he just needs some time figuring this out.
I have no idea what his new girlfriend is like. I looked at her facebook profile just to see what she looked like (kind of shallow of me i guess) and then I blocked her because I didn’t want to keep checking it. I know it’s easy enough to just unblock her but at least this way if I go and unblock her it’ll give me more to think about whether I really want to look or not. The truth is, maybe she is completely different to me. She might be a better girlfriend that what I ever was. I’m not going to pretend like I was perfect. I was always so worried about things so my guess is that she is a pretty calm individual. I know deep down that it might last a really long time and they may be together forever. But I can’t help but hope that it truly is just a silly rebound and that it won’t work out. I know that’s very selfish of me, but I think that this is just his way of dealing with things. The only things I know about her is that they met through a mutual friend and ‘clicked’, but I presume she smokes weed because those are the only kind of people he has been hanging round with at the moment.
When I asked him about New Year’s he just said that he meant it at the time but things change. I’m so annoyed. And I asked him if I should give up on him at that time as well, and he said to just chill (which I took as don’t give up on me???) But really if he had this other girl in his sights I would’ve preferred to be told to give up on him completely even though that’s harsh. Although I do think a lot of his behaviour towards me and the things he has said have been to justify what he is doing to himself, and to me. He was trying to make me hate him so it’d be easier to get over him. But I am never going to hate him and he knows that.Moonbunny – I would like to think that it’s just an ‘at the moment’ thing, but I don’t really know. I do feel like my ex is definitely running away from the emotions but she might ACTUALLY heal his heart and then I’ll be even more upset. So the only option I have for now is to accept the fact that they’re together and pretend that they’re the best couple in the world and that nothing will rip them apart.
Even though it’s probably silly and desperate and I’m realizing more and more that he’s not for me, I still want to talk to my ex in years to come. Maybe even just hang out as friends, I’m not sure. Although I can tell when I told him that I didn’t want to be friends that he was hurt and confused – he is used to be friends with everyone that he comes across. He is quite good friends with his other exs that he only went out for a couple of months (although that is quite different as we were together for ages). But I really hope that it did sting him when I said that I didn’t want to be friends. I guess it won’t really hurt unless he is truly alone at night and thinking about everything that has happened in his life and that may not be for a while as atm he is preoccupied with the new things going on in his life. But one day he might think about it and he will realize that I truly rejected him because I said that I didn’t want to be friends. (Although the truth is I probably do want to be friends some time when I’m over all this hurt and anger). I had a dream last night that I was meeting up with him and his friend Robert. And we were just being friends and there were a couple of other people there. The whole time I was talking to him the song ‘The way I love you’ was playing in my head and I knew that I was going to cry. (I presume in the dream it was a couple of years in the future but I don’t really know). So it just depends what happens I guess. If things can change so much in 2 months that things can REALLY change in 2 years. Hopefully I won’t even want to speak to him. I really do want to just move on and never speak to him again but I’m just not strong enough to do that. I always want him to be a part of my life :/// To top this all off, a guy that I kinda had a crush on and thought about going to the movies with has got a girlfriend as well! I mean, that’s a lot less devastating but it just seems like all the good guys around here are taken!! (which is why my ex was snapped up so quickly – he is a JERK but he is a nice person and can probably trick unsuspecting ppl).
Wow! What your ex did for you sounds soooo sweet. He was so sad that he couldn’t say happy birthday to you first. That is so cute!!!! I can tell that he really loved you. And I know that my ex really loved me too. I just don’t understand how he can forget about that so easily. Hopefully your ex hasn’t forgotten how much you meant to him <3 My ex and I had so many good times as well, and I feel like he doesn’t even remember. All he remembers is the stupid fight that we had about a light switch when he decided he would break up with me ;____; the most heartbreaking part about that is that I slept on his couch that night, then in the morning I went into his bed and we cuddled and I thought everything was fine. When it turns out that he had stopped feeling things for me and even THAT was a lie. He then got angry again out of nowhere and he told me to go home because he didn’t really feel like being together that day. I said okay because I just thought it was to do with the argument and he needed space to cool off. Then he came round to my house later on with some money to give my mum (we brought him something the day before). He then told me he was going into the city with his friend that was in my dream. And he kissed me on the forehead ;___; it was so sweet and it kills me to think that he was just doing it out of habit and didn’t really mean it.Then he didn’t speak to me on the phone or anything over the whole weekend but I STILL was a fool and thought everything was okay because he was just hanging out with his friend and having a good time. Then I noticed that normally I would’ve heard SOMETHING so I asked him if he hated me (probably a bad idea?) and all he said was ‘No’. So I was like ??? It really seems like it but okay. Then I left it for then. The whole Monday I didn’t hear from him either. So I texted him at his 3pm break at work and asked what was going on. He said not much or soemthing like that??? And I was like why aren’t you speaking to me? he said ‘Just don’t have much to say.’ I was really confused. That night I rang him and asked what was going on because he was really confusing and upsetting me. He said that everything was ‘fine’ and would come and see me on Tuesday. For a moment I thought it was okay and that he was still having space because of the argument and everything. Then when I was at work on Tuesday I got the idea that he might be going to break up with me :,( I told my mum my fears and another of my friends. It turns out that I was right and we broke up :/ I wanted to go running after him out the door but I knew that would just make things worse. He was gone from that moment. Actually, from the moment that we had the argument about the light switch. I don’t know why I’m sharing that whole story, I guess it just feels better to get it out of my system and stop thinking about it. If only I could rewind time and never argue about the stupid light switch!!! obviously that wasn’t the only thing going on and he wasn’t happy but honestly :'(
I hope that talking to your ex goes well for you my dear. I’m sure that it will be okay <3 <3 But like you said, we can’t read too much into things unless we totally know the truth. In the end, I think that True Love lasts. So even if my ex is not my true love (something I’m starting to think is unlikely) then I will find someone 1000% better.
Sorry for my long ramble about my breakup in the middle. I just feel like that was something that I had to get out in the air. I do actually have to mention that my ex accidentally hurt my thumb during this argument. Sometimes I think that is the reason he thought it was such a bad argument. Because he had hurt me physically, even though it wasn’t on purpose. I could tell he felt really bad about it. I told him it wasn’t a big deal, but maybe it weighed on his mind a bit during that weekend?
Anyway, I hope your day is going well too! I haven’t been doing much with my days at the moment because I’ve just been having to grieve. I’ve been watching a lot of Gilmore Girls which I loooove. I think I’m living vicariously through Lorelai and Luke because I love them so much! <3I don’t think that being blocked on facebook is very good either. That gives me the idea that he never wants to speak to me again 🙁
Maybe he will unblock me one day but I’m not going to count on it.I’m sorry you’re feeling this way scatteredtracks. I feel like giving up today too. The last time I saw him he told me he doesn’t want to lose me from his life, he loves me, and he’s not going to disappear. And he asked me not to disappear. He also told me he doesn’t want to be separate from me, he just doesn’t know what to do right now.
But he’s not here. He’s not called to see if I’m okay. I don’t know what’s happening in his life anymore, and I wake up crying. I’m wondering if maybe I should just learn to accept that it’s over and that I’ll probably never have him in my life again.
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