Boards Reconciliation I think I've lost my husband! any advise

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  • #10233
    divjun
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    Reply to his text and dont reply after that. He could have asked the kids all by himself. Anyways you need to be strong. Its all going in your favor. He is missing you trust me. When the last time I talked to my ex, he admitted he was finding excuses to talk to me. Your husband is doing the exact same thing.lol

    #10235
    cassie
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    I’m pretty sure he does care about you! πŸ™‚ Okay, let him know that in the text and see what he says. Have you considered giving him specific days to get the kids?

    #10238
    aamls
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    unfortunately I am replying to him and hes taking his sweet little time to respond. I actually thought he wanted to pick them up at their schools which was the way he text but he wants to pick them up from me. ugh im not sure what im gonna do but im gonna try to avoid him. I cant keep on with this crap, its to much and to hurtful. I wish he’d was trying to get a hold of me but thats not the case at all and I hate communicating with him because it so painful. ugh im very hurt by all of this. he doesnt even care about me at all. if he does come to get the kids then Im not going to see him but being that late I think if he wants to take them to school he should come get them in the morning. I’ll have to think about it. I hjate that I miss him and hes doing whatever he wants whenever he wants and the one getting screwed up is me. idk what to do anymore. but I really need to forget about him and move on. he keeps causing me pain. man I feel like I wanna cry. funny thing is in his voicemail he said he didnt know why I didnt wanna talk to him. ugh..

    #10239
    aamls
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    I told him whenever he wants to see them he can but he does random stuff. hes very confusing. also I told him on his days off and weds happens to be his day off but he only took them one time and never let me know he dropped them off or anything. ugh so im unsure of that

    #10240
    aamls
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    also unsure of why he wants to take them all of a sudden. he can pick them up for school in the morning other then they’re usually in bed by a certain time. ugh im so confused. im also gonna give time between text as well. hes always acting weird and I hate it ugh. I wished he’d miss me but he doesnt. πŸ™

    #10242
    cassie
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    Then just let him know to get them from school and not from your home. This way you won’t have to see him! He will reply you so don’t worry. πŸ™‚ I understand that it’s hard for you but you’re doing so well! πŸ™‚

    #10244
    Jortiz127
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    Yes your doing really well if your not ready don’t see him!!

    #10247
    aamls
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    thanks guys. hes at work so I told him to come get them and its funny cause my youngest told me after getting in the car. do I get to see daddy today? lol I said yes you do. I may just stay in my room when he comes or do what I did last time and have them all ready so he doesnt have to come inside at all. this is so hard and frustrating. ugh I sent him a text saying if hes also picking them up from school since its his day off. I just texted him are you also going to pick them up with a smiley face. lets see what he answers if he even answers. thing being he’s always to busy on his days of for picking them up. lets see if he answers or what he says. Im also going to tell him to send me a text letting me know he dropped them of at school because last time I was uncased. so lets see. ugh I hate going through all of this. I feel like he doesnt miss me and or love me. πŸ™ ugh..what do ya think of this? ugh I hate this. πŸ™

    #10249
    cassie
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    I think it would be great if you have your children all ready to go when he comes so that he doesnt need to come inside at all. This way you also won’t have to see him! πŸ™‚

    #10250
    aamls
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    yeah thats what I did last time. Im going to do the same thing again. I’ll let the kids know to have everything ready ect. I wish he’d look for me but I guess its not in my future unfortunately. hmmm, Im thinking about it now, I hope he doesnt try coming in to see his “mom” as an excuse to try to come inside either way the kids will be ready to go and if anything I’ll stay in my room. I wished he’d miss me but I guess he really wasnt reaching out to me in anyway other then the stupid insurance and about the kids. oh well, I gotta try to stay strong and continue to improve for myself. πŸ™

    #10253
    cassie
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    If he didnt care about you, then he wouldnt have asked you about the insurance, then he would just have let it be. He still cares for you! πŸ™‚ And do remember that he hasnt gone through with the divorce yet either.

    #10256
    aamls
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    well I think he may be waiting for income tax to do that but im not sure yet but thank God he hasnt mentioned it anymore. also he may care but maybe as a friend or the mother of his children. but do you think he still loves me and wants to be with me because he hasnt mentioned anything to me. πŸ™

    #10258
    divjun
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    You both were together for 12 long years. Thats a long time. And that is the proof he loves you (still).
    I had a 3 year long relation and my ex mentioned that he wont be able to get over me ever!!
    You had 4 times longer relation how can you even doubt if he still loves u or not.
    I know being in love and not being with eachother is so damn confusing, but you have to deal with that. Dont forget everything happens for a reason. Its possible that when you both get back together, you both will share strong understanding and love as compare to what you shared before.
    Be strong.

    #10259
    aamls
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    why do I want to hear from him so bad. but he doesnt contact me. ugh I hate this. he knows im not talking to him which is why he left the voicemails and saw me sending text. which btw he hasnt responded to my last ones. but he doesnt know why im not talking to him. is this a good thing or bad? this is very confusing for me. any opinions onwhat ya think or what I should do or anything? i miss him really bad and want him back but I feel this is no where near by for me. ugh. I feel so sad and a little depressed. I feel like I wanna cry. πŸ™

    #10261
    aamls
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    @divjun thanks its just really hard. the way hes acting and the way hes being makes me think this way, I feel like im no where near getting him back and this hurts me. πŸ™ ugh I guess I just have to be patient. πŸ™ thanks πŸ™‚

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