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Its strange that he has took up dancing, because I told myself that I would start working out to impress my ex but never did. Then when we split and I started working out a lot. So I am not really sure what to say really.
Yeah, when he comes and if you havent left yet – be nice to him, say hi, act normal 🙂 He will LOVE it! No matter what stupid thing he might say or do, just be cool!
thanks divjun. 🙂 will have to play it out this way I guess, :-/ I try not to be but hes so awkward that he makes me nervous now when hes around. 🙁
@Nick yes it is, its so he can go “have fun”. hes hitting the gym even more now then before and yes he got more arm muscle now as well and a tan how nice “not”. ugh why is he acting all crazy and this way. ugh 🙁
@cassie will try to but its very hard. love it,lol I wish lol, hopeful thinking and wishing. lol 🙂 and your right I should. thanks guys 🙂
If he’s trying to improve him self for whatever the reason you should improve your self as well to show him that you are happy and stable. I dunno but I noticed my mom would put on more make up (panda eyes ffs) when she ever went over to sort some things out or if she knew my dad was coming over.
yes I wish I knew his reason but there probably to attract females and what not. :-/ me I am doing it for me and hes notice to once he said your losing weight good for you, ugh. so I am trying im losing weight do wear make up when I see him except the times he comes around and surprises everyone. one time he wanted to talk to me and he said what shes not wearing any make up I wont look at her. so yeah hes notice lol. but nothing changes. he also knows im trying to look for jobs because my oldest told him no one is getting me and he suggested a place for me to apply. he knows im hanging out because my oldest told him we were at his cousins house the other day and my oldest post pictures of us in different places. so he sees a change but nothing gives. 🙁 so idk what do you think? he hasnt called text or talk to anyone today as my mother in law said she told my youngest that yesterday he told her he was coming today. he has this mysterious thing going on and the thing with him showiing up the way he has is so weird. why do you think he showed up last night like that and left. then text me? this is to weird. ugh 🙁 thanks Nick. 🙂
I am really not sure what he is doing. It seems as though he still has strong feeling for you but he seems confused and may be scared of something. He is complementing you which can be seen as a good sign but he might just be being nice. But I would assume he knows you want him back so why would he say that…. Hmmmmm…. Unless if its gone straight over his head but I doubt that.
Its good that he has seen you going out and having fun. That will make him feel happy as well, which can only make things better.
The reason for him turning up could be many things, sounds mostly stress related about the kids. Its rude that he doesn’t say and just walks in. It is good though that he is concerned about the kids tbf some men just forget about them. But hmmmmmmm….. im not really what to say about his actions. He must find it awkward to talk to you face to face right now that’s why he text. I would give him time, you are doing well staying strong. Keep up going out having fun, the kids seem to be doing their part there showing the pics it seems.
ok so he came over, ugh for some reason he was tired. anyways he gave me the money. when he came in he said hi to everyone so i said hi to him first. he said hi, then he reached for his wallet when I wasnt facing him and said here. he gave me the money and dropped his wallet. I touched hands with him again and i reached for his wallet and gave it to him before he could reach it as I was sitting by the floor. we were in his moms room. anyways he goes around and sits on the other side of the mattress. well then we started having conversations about my oldest and how our youngest wasnt feeling good and what not. anyways it seem like it was going good. yeah right. anyways his mom started talking about my mother and some issues and I walked out(my mistake because he knew I was upset, ugh, I later asked his mom and she said he told her not to talk about that because I got upset,ugh, nice way to get screwed). anyways so then I thought about it and went back to the room and decided to face him. (he rarely gives me eye contact and rarely speaks and what not) well I grabbed my youngest to bring her to my room to put her in bed because she had fallen asleep and was sick) he asked if I needed help and I said no im good or something like that I told him. (im trying to show him I dont need him) anyways he as I was picking up my youngest kept asking me if I got her do you got her blah blah blah. hmm I showed him. lol. (before this my oldest was saying she did my makeup, she didnt and I told him she didnt do it that I had done it and that she has done it before but what mess shes done and what not and he had his eyes closed and smiled.) also she having talk. anyways after bring my youngest to the room I went back to my mother in laws room to say bye to my oldest. (my oldest and him started laughing at me, I said whats wrong, and my oldest said I went all wobbly to the room, I said it was because there was a lot of stuff in the way) then they were both laughing, my husband turns red and I said your so red you look like Rudolf and he said something like its not his fault or something that im insecure about myself. ugh why did he say that. he blushed really bad. then im bending to give my oldest a kiss and they start laughing again because my butt was by his face well not to close. and he was looking straight, why? 🙁 lol anyways my oldest told him mommy walks like this and he said good that way she can get a boyfriend? what are you kidding me, why did he say this ton her? then she set him straight by telling him thats how I walk. 🙁 (he was also telling me I need to reapply for food stamps. ugh but his mom thinks its because money is tight) also he keeps asking me if im talking to my brother I said idk and my oldest told him no,ugh. everyone keeps getting in my business. why? so he took my oldest I left the room before they were leaving and he knocked on the door. I opened it and he was going to the bathroom, he said thanks for letting me take her. then I guess they left. why is he acting this way? what does it mean? why is he saying these things and what not? these things are very hurtful and I honestly dont think im getting him back. Im thinking of moving on, I dont want to but what other choice do I have. its painful and hurtful but I gotta be a realist to. anyone please give me some advise or something. right now I feel like were so done. (he told my oldest to get everything she needs because he doesnt want to come tomorrow.) ugh anyone please help. thanks Im about to give up. :'(
Maybe giving up is a good thing? Just for right now? I know that it is so hard to think that way because you want him so badly, but maybe if you give up, you can really concentrate on doing what you need to do for you. Then when your energy shifts towards you, you will notice a difference in his energy towards you.
I think it is very disrespectful they way he and your oldest are laughing at you. It is probably best to just not react to it, but he should at least respect you as the mother of his children.
@Sunshine11 thanks for your reply. 🙂 I hope your doing well. 🙂 you make a lot of sense in what your saying. but do you think I’ll ever get him back? I dont think I will but the way I feel right now why does it even matter. :-/ I know what your saying I felt kinda hurt when they were doing that but could it have been in a friendly matter? I feel like he may b hurt still. it hurt me when he said to my oldest I dont want to have to come back here(like if it was a bad thing) but his mom did make sense when she said that he had to come back to get her school shirt. I know its annoying having to go back because you forget something but this I took really hard. idk. any thoughts? thanks
I honestly don’t know, but I do think it is possible to get him back if you are able to concentrate on yourself for a while. You need a break from this daily sadness of seeing him.
It could have been in a friendly matter. Sometimes in families it is just friendly. He probably didn’t mean it bad that he didn’t want to have to come back.
thanks @Sunshine11 for your reply. 🙂 yes I feel like I can use a break from these feelings already. this is so hard. :'( I think it was probably that he didnt want to have to come back. also the laughing was mean but it may have been teasing. hmm not sure. :-/ thanks any idead why he told my oldest “good that way she can get a boyfriend”? :'( thanks 🙂
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