I think im right.

so as I was typing the last post my ex got in contact with a how are you text again. I replied and asked her about herself. some good news. Her and her daughter had a great night together last night at the cinema and dinner etc. she also said her best friends are coming to visit mid march which she is super happy about. I wrote back wow, I’m really happy for you, it would be nice to meet them.

Anyway I guess I’m a bit confused at the moment. Not sure if I continue waiting for her to make contact as when I make contact it seems to take her ages to reply. Or do I go no contact again but I worry this would undo the positive steps.

@patricia12, Thanks for your reply. I do agree with you. The only reason I texted “it would be nice to meet them” is because she has talked about these two friends a lot since we first got together over two years ago. She has always said that I would get on very well with the boyfriend as we are quite similar apparently.
My ex and I met in September 2015 and I moved to London in November. We became a couple on the 20th of November 2015. We split once for 5 months then got back together for a month then broke up for a month then got back together until this latest split. I did around 2 months no contact until new years and we have been talking since and have met once which was really incredible and I know that feeling was mutual as she said so. She has so much going on so I understand her flakiness. Since that meet I have only initiated contact a hand full of times. She has made contact regularly asking how I am and asking to meet on a couple of different Sundays then cancelling as something had come up. All contact has been sweet though with no pressure arguments or standoffs. I haven’t actually talked about getting back together although we did when we met last and agreed that this needs to be permanent when we do. She has said she cant live without me and although things have been tough I really can see a future.

That’s a bit more insight. I will take your advice and not make contact and not chase her. She knows my feelings. I just find it extremely confusing when she sends these how are you texts, I reply and ask about her, quite often with no reply for a while.

An Update. This are still super complicated. So I did a proper period of No contact. Until Monday 12/03. A mutual friend got in contact worried as my ex hadn’t shown up to work the previous day and hadn’t been on social media. I found it strange but just replied I haven’t herd from her and to keep me updated with news. About an hour later My friend let me know my ex was in hospital. I rang my ex and couldn’t get through. I sent a message saying I heard your in hospital, which one ill leave work now. She replied after an hour saying She couldn’t handle us not speaking, was supper depressed and had gone out, She is on lots of medication and the mix with alcohol had caused her to black out then she woke up in hospital. She said don’t worry about coming to the hospital as her friends were over and they were taking care of things. Anyway next day we exchanged a few texts and agreed that this cant go on and life was a lot better together however she said she needs to rest and doesn’t want any stress. I respected that and sent her a couple of support messages to which she was happy about. Come the weekend she sent me a text inviting me over to meet her friends that I was talking about in a previous post. What a great night. Got on really well with her friends. In the morning, I took her daughter out on a breakfast mission and we bought my exes favourite flowers from both of us. after breakfast we all went to the British museum and had a lovely day. Her daughter and I got on like a house on fire like always and we were so happy. Obviously my ex and I had lots of sex and in the passion of the moment she said she wants to marry me and we have to sort this situation out. I agreed. she then came and stayed with me on Monday night again really nice time together. The next day we continued our texts to each other all in good spirits. She said she really misses me already. I said well you can see me tonight. She replied she didn’t know and that we need to sort things out. So later on that night she sent a text saying she should have stayed with me. I didn’t see it until the morning and replied well anytime ; )
A couple of hours later she sent me a text saying she was really confused and that she didn’t want to complicate things and that she needed to know for sure about getting back together. I respect this and I am happy that she is being completely honest with me as Id hate to get back together then spit up again. Fast forward a few days to This past Sunday and she sent me a how are you text. We texted back and forth lightly, I was on face time to my parents at the time and said my dad asked after her. She said she misses them so much also.

I guess I’m writing this all down as it seems to help. Every time we are together its all so easy and works so well. I seem to be the missing link in-between her and her daughter and they get on a lot better when I am around. I guess her being confused makes me very confused. I’m letting her make all the moves and I haven’t pressured any get back together talks. I’m worried that in doing so, this behaviour is what is making her confused.