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Tonight I’m on day 4 of my third attempt at NC after being broken up for three weeks. This time feels like it’s going to work – and if it’s an indefinite NC period then so be it.
My relationship went through all the warning signs that I didn’t know about and I was that needy insecure guy which I’m sure made it worse. I found out she had been texting someone else before the breakup and she only partially admitted to it. It was time to end things and she moved out for her “space”.
What’s frustrating is that I know space now means being with someone else – that’s a fact I just found out today. This guy has all the rebound signs – he’s dangerous is about the only thing he has over me – but I’m 100% more successful in life.
So I finally deleted all of our photos together on my phone so I don’t have to be reminded of her. I finally feel some clarity. Will I contact her at day 30 and try to reconcile – who knows? After recently learning that she’s a better liar than bill Clinton under oath I feel like why waste my time and energy pining for someone who can manipulate me and destroy my feelings again. I’m so much better than that – and so is each one of you out there suffering through a similar situation. Take back your life!
Glad you are so strong… I wish I was like that. Keep going and keep us updated 🙂
So Im on day 5 now – I know that she spent the night at the guys house and have a hunch they had sex or will do it soon – they’ve been flirting for about a month now at her work and via text (I saw one sample which I was told was harmless).
I’m not going to lie – it was a very rough and sleepless night – the worst I’ve had since we broke up because this is the first time she’s been with him at his place. My day at work was awful – I stared at my computer screens and compulsively checked social media for any signs of life.
I’m trying to be better this evening – the important thing is me reaching out to her is out of the question so I can keep my NC going strong.
I wonder why I want her back – even after she’s at a minimum cheated on me emotionally. This is what I’m trying to figure out – after reading through this site I realize I was addicted to the relationship and I need to get away from that. There’s someone out there who will treat me well and love me as much as I love them
I feel for you. And I am really happy and proud you are being so strong. But take that emotional cheat as fuel for you. You were not the one in the wrong so you don’t have to feel that weight. You weren’t the one to break up either, another weight you dont have to bare. Use that to push you to be happier daily. I was the one on the wrong mostly, I wasnt ready and didn’t know better at the time to have and maintain a strong healthy relationship. But I do now. However, not ever telling me he was thinking of breaking up before he did, and the actual act of breaking up is on his shoulders
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