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So, my girlfriend broke up with me two days ago via phonecall, I initially acted badly with anger and confusion and question. She has started the no contact.
We are quarantined as is everyone right now, and I am with family until I go back to my place in a month or so for work.
She wants us to give our studf back that we have after quarantine is over.
Should I agree or does posting it or dropping it off make a better statement to her?
Our relationship: We had a good relationship and made a great connection with each other, she said the romance is still there and the physical attraction but recentley it has gone flat (because of quarantine in my opinion). I respect her decision but she doesn’t know I respect it, she thinks I’m heartbroken and angry.
How can I show her I am not and that I am fine without contacting her? She hasn’t blocked me on anything? Will me blocking her make it worse? What can I do to look appealing again?
Thanks
@Jackzzv121 When there are deep feelings of love, a quarantine won’t make a difference.
Your anger/frustration/confusion with the breakup was a normal reaction and I’m sure she understands that. No need to contact her to tell her you’re okay with the breakup. Just start no contact now to allow her to miss you and think about her decision. No, don’t block her as that would seem like retaliation. After your quarantine is over, just make arrangements to sort out belongings to collect and/or give them back.
Take care and stay safe..
But making the arrangement will break no contact? I think I’m gonna need about a month and a half two for this one?
@Jackzzv121 Make arrangements after no contact, but if she contacts you to discuss arrangements sooner, work out arrangements that would be convenient for both of you..
Yeah I understand that. It’s just annoying that we still have to exchange stuff…cos she said “it’s not really over until we do” implying all this no contact I’m doing now is useless because we still have to meet to exchange. THEN no contact begins AGAIN. She did even say she doesn’t care about exchanging stuff because we have nothing valuable of each others really.
@Jackzzv121 She said the relationship had gone flat.. So continue strict no contact for at least a month in order to give her the chance to possibly miss you and reconsider her decision.
You wrote:”She did even say she doesn’t care about exchanging stuff because we have nothing valuable of each others really.” Okay, then don’t worry or think about the stuff anymore. Just focus on any improvements you think you might need to make.
@Jackzzv121 If you don’t mind, could you give a little more detail. I know she broke up with you via a phone call on April 11th and stated it was because the relationship had gone flat. What did she mean by “gone flat”. Can you site examples? Did she give any other reasons?
How long were you two a couple before she broke it off?
Take care and stay safe:)
Hi Patricia thanks,
She didn’t give any examples. She tries to break up back in February, I ignored her and two days later she came flying back. She just gets these moments of doubt, she suffers from anxiety and depression. It’s nothing specific that I’ve done.
Just a bit out the blue because we had been texting fine and had decent phonecalls and she like thank you so much for phoning etc.
She hasn’t blocked me on social media, I still see her online unfortunately. Blocking her won’t help either that’s just spiteful. I’m just trying to remain neutral. This is day 11
@Jackzzv121 You didn’t say how long you were a couple?? Is she in therapy or take any medications for anxiety/depression??
So this is day 11 of no contact. Try not to stalk social media.
Good luck:)
we were together almost 2 years. No she isb’t taking any medication at the moment. I feel that is irrelevant. It’s very hard not to stalk social media with the current situation. Every day that goes by I just feel more hopeless
@Jackzzv121 Medication might help stabilize her moods. Anyway, that’s up to her and her doctor.
I know it must be difficult not to stalk social media, but it doesn’t help you and I think you might be trying to guess what everything means there. Maybe try to cut back on how many times you look..
Being together 2 years is significant as it means there was an emotional investment for both of you. Good memories and maybe some not so good..
Don’t give up hope!
@Jackzzv121 How are you doing? Anything new with the breakup situation?
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