Boards No Contact Rule help!! i m in huge shock DO I HAVE ANY CHANCE

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    sfantaadriana
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    Hello, first of all.i want to all greet you here.
    Second i want to apologies if i m not verry concise.
    My boyfriend been in a 2 and a half year relationship and i first broke up 6 months ago, got back togheter but the things were’nt as good as they used to be.
    Recently i discovered he speaks with somebody else – a girl in the same college.
    I confronted her she said they have a relationship. Even if they hadn t have a relstionship, at least they were in the beginnig.they dated once i know for sure.
    Because i put him to choose . He said that he doesn t choose anything but doesnt want me anymore because of the scandal i made.
    And then went to her house.
    He said he just want to f** the girl and he didn’ t get the chance. And that is paying me a policy because in the summer i cheated on him with my ex. (I didn’t cheat he just text me happy birthday and had a small chat)

    My actual ex (all i have are ex’es) called down on me that i was not liking him, seeing only it s flows and she at least sees him beautiful.
    Of course due to the fact that he has a low self esteem he always compared with my ex. He has a huge frustration.
    In the end, after choosing her over me on ambition because they know each other for 14 days. I put an end to it.
    Actually being in.a huge shock i pleaded i begged and asked him.to think it thru. That lead to him going to her house – even if it was the first time.

    I wished him well, and all the best. He replied that for my ex i fought , why i don t fight for him. That he was just a rebound. (A 2 and a half year rebound!) And said he’s all alone and doesn’t have anybody.
    And shoulted that i never loved him like the ex.
    That was the last conversation.
    I maintained composure and told him that is not the case, that i wish him well and we ll speak some other time.
    He slammed the phone and said it was the last time.

    This happend yesterday, today he texted me 4 empty messages.
    I don t know. He s only calling not texting wanting to screw his chsnces with the other girl, i think.

    It may be my fault because i never asked him to be faithfull. And he was beacause i didn t oblige him.i only imposed one thing. Not to put anyone above me.
    The thing he did last night. He chosed someone over me.
    I think my chances to get him back are inignifiant. Not that he s worth it but i still want him back. Everything was great besides this. It s not only the shock.

    Do i have any chance. Sorry for the long message

    #70949
    Anna
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    ‘Not that he s worth it but i still want him back’??

    #70955
    sfantaadriana
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    Yes, he s treated me badly, humiliated me public with that girl. But o still believe in him and what we have.
    What was your question, it was a rethorical one?

    #71043
    sfantaadriana
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    Can anyone help me please???
    I m desperate and confuse…

    #71045
    patricia12
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    @sfantaadriana – If he’s been treating you badly, you should go no contact and let him think about how he’s hurt you. He should apologize and ask to be exclusive with no more infidelity. Otherwise, you will be in for more hurt and disappointment.

    #71058
    sfantaadriana
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    Thank you Patricia, i think it is right. I ll go Nc . My mom and the rest of my friends told me that i should go an subdued
    nc , meaning responding to their question from time to time and not accepting the guilt that he s shoving of my throat.
    Because he wants to make me take the blame.

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