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So I got back with my ex a few weeks ago and things are a little rough to be honest. Things were fine before we got into a relationship again but now that we are it seems like a lot of the bad things from the past relationship keep coming up.
I’m not sure how to handle all of this. I want to be back with her, I’ve not done all this for naught. I just want a new and happy relationship with her. I followed RR and I think it may have worked to all and we may have jumped the gun. But now that we’re in a relationship again the last thing I want to do is break it off again.
So I need some good advice from someone who’s read RR and fully understands it. What should I do?
Should I revisit RR? Should I send her a copy of it so she can work on things too? The latter sounds like such a great idea it’ll level the playing field and she’ll see what I’m working toward. But is it a good idea? Please. Someone who knows what their taking about I need your advice asap.And I need practical advice and examples/past experience that I can put into practice. I don’t want generalizations, yall can keep those to yourselves. I need practical useful advice that I can use the next day.
I wouldn’t send her a copy…she may feel as she has been “manipulated”:S
I think RR says now you have to keep things in Bliss mode. If you know why you had problems or break up and you’ve learned your lessons, then don’t go back to the old habits that ruined things. Do things like you used to do in the beginning, be more like you used to be. Write it down so you have a clear picture: 5 things that have led to the break up; why she’s the right person for you; things you don’t want to repeat; what you liked about her; what you like about you, what you liked about you 2.
Since bad habits are already emerging, cool off. From what I’ve learned with this distance: sometimes we put too much weight in our not so blissful moments together, and end up creating a bigger issue, almost abstract and unsolvable. If you need her cooperation too, without talking about your past problems, remind her of the good things you used to do in a casual way, or just snap her or yourself out of the bad habits.
Sorry if these are generalizations. I’m not an expert (actually I’d love to get back with my ex too and would love some practical advice too), but this is based on my lessons and from what I know about RR
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