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Hi everyone,
I’m new to this site, i’ll try to make my post as short and clear as possible. I really need some advice.
I’m 26 years old, she’s 24, and we’ve been together for 7 years. We’ve had a very stable relationship, and we even were making plans to move in together and get married.
Well, a week ago we had an argument and she told me that she felt like I wasn’t giving her her space, and that she gave me mine whenever I wanted to do something(she was right). She said that she couldn’t enjoy a night out with the girlfriends because of what my reaction could be. I never said that she couldn’t go out, but she told me that I acted cold whenever she came back from wherever she was. And to some extent I did acted a little bit weird, or cold/serious. We had those problems in the past and when I realized what I was doing. I tried and changed that behavior (it clearly was not 100%).So now she says she wants to be alone, and actually enjoy her time with her friends or whatever she wants to do, without giving anyone an explanation. I really understand her, and I told her that I had to respect her decision, and I didn’t try to convince her otherwise. I just apologized and told her that I acted wrong. Too late.
So I haven’t contacted her for a week now, because I want to respect her decision. But the thing is, I know it’s something that I can work on and fix, but I know she thinks that I can’t change. Aside from that, we had an awesome relationship. And I can’t let her go without trying to win her back.
As of now I haven’t contacted her for one week, and I’m planning on doing the 30 days NC.
The thing is, she seems pretty ok going out with her friends a lot, and she just unfriended me from Facebook and instagram.
I just want to know what you guys think about my situation, what else should I do? As i said, i want to try hard to win her back, and if it doesn’t work, then I’ll let her go.Please help me, and thanks in advance.
-Mike C-
My two cents, give her the space she is asking for. 7 years is a long time she will not forget about you. Hard to explain blocking you though if you agreed to time apart and have done NC for a week, did you piss her off?
Bguarino,
Thanks for your response.
Definitely, i am giving her time and space for now. I plan to contact her after 30 days.
And i dont know about the unfriend and deleting me from facebook, i guess it’s normal if she wants to be alone. It’s not cool to be apart and still be looking at your profile and pictures(but it kinda took me by surprise). And i did not do anything to piss her off, we actually talked and ended in good terms.Update: it’s been a week and a couple of days of NC. Some friend of mine that has her as a friend on facebook and instagram says that she’s going out a lot lately with this “girlfriend” that she had while we were still together (it was more of an acquaintance than a friend). So now they are going out at least 3 times a week, and it seems that they became beat friends, and my friend says that they use phrases like ” i love you baby, date with my baby, you’re so adorable I love you, it’s always date night with you baby, and that they even said something like there are no word to describe the feeling of touching you…no smiley emoticons, no ” hahaha”,
I dont know it’s just weird. She’s never been like that in the past (7years). She was always reserved with what she said, both in person and in social media. HELP PLEASE!!!! Should i still follow the plan, or should I assume they are a couple!!!! According to a friend of mine, the other girl is not gay, but i’m confused and terrified of the idea. I feel down again!HELP PLEASE!!!!
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