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So on the 6th, I ended no contact. I made it through doing pretty exceptionally well. My life is doing great right now, and I’m happier than I have been in a long time with myself. I’m happy to say I am at a place of inner peace.
Upon finishing no contact, I sent her “the text” explaining how I’ve accepted the breakup, apologized for previous toxic behaviors, mentioned positive changes…Etc. She responded positively by saying this:
“Nick,
That’s fantastic news. I’m so happy for you. I’ve been keeping tabs on you on Facebook but been giving you your space. I would love nothing more than for you to still be in my life.”She sent me one more text after that talking about one of our favorite TV shows, and I responded casually. The conversation ended there, and we haven’t spoken in 2 days.
What I’d like some opinions on is where to go from here? I think I’ll give it 5 or so days before I contact her again. Since I’ve already got a positive foundation to build on, I feel good about this. Just would like some suggestions from the pros on what you feel the best direction to take with conversations from this point forward would be. Thanks in advance.
Good for youuu!!!!!! wait the 5 days and text her something casual… maybe even about that show! keep it short and simple!
Proceed with CAUTION.
Stayed out of touch until today, texted her about the show and kept it relatively short and simple. She responded awhile later, and I answered. No texts after that though, which made me a little nervous.
I Think it’ll be best to just give her some space when she doesn’t answer and not press it though. The last image I want to project to her is a needy and desperate one.
I think you are doing a fantastic job!By all means stay away from pushing or texting too much. The phrase that helped me get through things was the following: “if they miss you the way you want them to miss you, they will initiate contact” Think about it whenever you feel like giving up, remember that she also needs to be willing to come back.
Im happy to hear that you are alright! PLS reach out if anything! Stay strong!Thank you! It was definitely emotionally trying in the first part of no contact, but it has gotten easier. The emotions are still there,my ability to manage them has improved a lot.
On the final day of no contact, I went to a wedding with my friend and posted a picture of us on my Facebook. She did say she’s been keeping tabs on me via FB. Is it possible she saw the picture and assumed something else, and in turn is being cold?
I doubt it but honestly it really doesn’t matter. Don’t obsess over it it wont help. keep up the good work!
I actually had a decent conversation today with her via text. Her and I are both into crafts and sewing, and we spent a good part of the day just texting back and forth about things she’s been working on. Good progress in my opinion. She didn’t answer the last text I sent pertaining to our conversation, but I’m alright with that. The important part is that we actually had a good casual conversation.
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