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  • #8723
    divjun
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    Hey everyone,
    Its day 21 of NC.
    well I broke up with him because he was flirting with other girls and lying to me and hiding things from me.
    He texted me like 3 times.
    1st- sorry
    2nd- pls concentrate on your studies
    3rd- come to whatsapp for a second

    I didnt responded to any of those texts.
    He asked my friend to call me and tell me to come on whatsapp. Still I didnt talk to him.
    He told her that he was just concerned about my studies nothing more.

    Last night he told my friend that he wants his spare bike keys which are with me.
    So I told my friend to tell him that I ll hand over his keys to my brother and he will give it to my ex.
    But when my friend told this to my ex, he refused to take those keys.
    I think he wants to talk to me or meet me.
    But why is he not feeling guilty about it. Why is he not apologising to me?
    Can this be because of his ego?
    This isnt the first time when he made a mistake and I totally cut off from him. But in max he took 3 days to approach me.
    But yes, this time he made a terrible mistake.

    But he is online on whatsapp and talk to other girls may be.
    According to me he doing just fine without me. He goes to his college, goes to gym, meet his friends and chats at night.
    His friend told me sometimes he is really sad and listens to sad songs but idk he looks fine.
    What should I do?

    #8725
    TravelBug
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    It depends. Are you ready? Have you worked on yourself? Are you in a good place where you know you’ll survive without him?

    #8729
    divjun
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    To be honest,
    I cant imagine my future without him.
    I know he is the only one with whom I wanna spend my whole life.
    We were together for 3 years.

    He also told my friend that “for her(me) its all over but not for me (my ex)”
    Yes he also told her that he doesnt want to get back together. As far as I know him he doesnt actually shares his feelings with anyone.

    He told my friend that his friend saw me with a guy and he thinks that im in a relationship now and thats why he didnt want to talk to me.

    I know he was lying again so that I could come up and tell him that this is not true im not seeing anyone.

    He made that all by himself because when my friend asked him the name of his friend who saw me, he didnt had anything to say.

    #8730
    divjun
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    Well ee go to the same gym.
    So I stopped going to the gym because of him.

    And once he asked my friend also why is she(me) not coming to the gym?

    #8778
    divjun
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    He replied very rudely to my friend when she told my ex that I will hand over your keys to her brother and he ll give it to my ex.

    He said he doesnt wants it. He said ” I gave my keys to her personally. Is this a way to return it back through her brother? If yes then I don’t need it now. She can keep it”

    He got angry and I dont know why.
    He also didnt text me from past 2 days.:(

    #8842
    divjun
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    Update
    Day 22 of NC
    he again told my friend that he wants to talk to me and he is worried about my studies.

    He also called me twice.
    Is he really that worried or just wants to talk?

    #8846
    Leslie
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    He’s probably really worried which means he cares. The good thing is he wants to talk. Finish your NC though for the full 30 days. Then if he contacts you then reply and be cool and calm and confident.
    If you want to contact him after then you can also try that just make sure you’re ready.
    And don’t make it too obvious you want him back don’t be clingy or anything just act very cool about it. You’re doing great!

    #8847
    divjun
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    Thanks leslie,

    I know he wants to talk but I want him to fight for me fight for our love because it was him who did wrong.
    And I was the one who broke up with him.
    Though he is not feeling sorry for his actions

    #8851
    Leslie
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    Yea I understand that I wish my ex would also fight for me but he’s not. But that doesn’t mean I want to give up so you just need to follow the 5 step plan if you really wanna give a try again.

    #8852
    Leslie
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    It’d mean a lot if you could also shoot me some advice or your input on my situation if you have time. I’m also always here if you need advice

    And this is where I’m sort of stuck and where I’m at. Do I have any hope?

    Where do I go from here!?

    #8860
    divjun
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    Thanks for your kind words
    And I believe if we are meant to be then we will be.
    I won’t tolerate any of his wrong deeds just to be in his life.
    If he loves me and values me then only I ll accept him because I did the break up! And I did it because of some reason.

    P.s. my ex and I go to the same gym. I stopped going there so that I wouldn’t have to see him daily.

    #8862
    divjun
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    Leslie, I have given my views on your sutuation.
    I feel like you still got a chance so dont worry. Be your best version for now πŸ™‚
    God bless πŸ™‚

    #8871
    Leslie
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    Yes you have haha I’m so sorry! Thank you for still re stating your views and making me feel better! πŸ™‚

    #8873
    divjun
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    Hahaha..yes.. I know when you get to hear positive things you feel positive about yourself and your situation.
    But my ex is always online on whatsapp at night. It kinda bugs me everynight πŸ™
    I hope he continues trying to contact me πŸ™‚

    #8877
    Leslie
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    Maybe you should delete that app so you don’t see that and it doesn’t mess with your mind!
    But ya I’m pretty sure he won’t stop so don’t worry about it. πŸ™‚

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