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It sounds like she isn’t serious about this guy. I do think it’s a rebound. Maybe they aren’t doing anything because she doesn’t feel comfortable. Maybe it’s because she does want you back and doesn’t want to go too far with anyone else?
Yes it is weird for a guy that age not wanting to do anything. It’s very odd. It makes me think that they don’t have a strong relationship.
Ly88
It’s not her not wanting to. Its this guy. She isnt all about sex but at this point im sure shes feeling uneasy about it all.
Hey all,
Welp. My ex sent me a msg on Facebook. I have seen it but I havent made it to where she see that Ive checked it. Ive given the advice before to let the ex know the message has been seen, but what do you all think I should do in this situation. I dont want to respond to her because she has this pattern going and she is technically still talking to this rebound. I want to go a very long time before reaching out. Maybe I just need to vent..idk
Advice?
“I know that there are strict rules for me not to contact you but I just wanted to say hey and to see how you are doing. I hope things are going amazing for you. Xoxoxo”
No. I am determined to keep my distance. Not because I cant handle it emotionally. but because my ex is attracted to me. She misses me. And yet goes for others. I feel that I need to show her through actions instead of words that I am not going to tolerate it. It hasnt been three weeks since I told her to not contact me. This is part of a pattern. I dont talk to her. She hits me up after two weeks.. acts like she wants me. Then distances herself again. So this time.. im not giving in. I have no want to either. Last night I missed her so much. I missed our life togerher. I had to surrender my best friend to the humane society yesterday. And I think that brought on my sadness and missing her.
I just want to be strong. And let her know I wont be her ‘blanky’. Not as punishment but I have let her walk over my emotions long enough. Even if she didnt mean to. Im moving on like I said. I mean it. If down the road we get together, then ok. But then, she will no when I say something, I fucking mean it.
Good for you! I agree. I think not answering her will really send your message loud and clear. I’m glad you are doing better and moving forward. If you do reconcile down the road it should be when she comes to you and feels ready, not just when she reaches out to be friendly!
@LAbound you want to use actions, right? Let her know you’ve read it.
yes let her see you read it! it will send the message more clearly that you’ve actually seen it and are choosing not to be an emotional crutch for her
Awesome! You sound stronger!
My ex sent me an almost identical message after I started NC. They just want to see if they can break your conviction. I say let her see that you read the message.
I’m sorry you had to surrender your friend. I had to do that several months back. I think it hurts more than a breakup. My heart goes out to you.
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