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So we broke up 1 month ago.. my mistake ( Was taking her for granted, cheated on her and acted all jerk)
I broke up with confidence that everything will get back to normal in a day but this time she was serious and left me. Immediately she engaged herself in a rebound friend ship with this male friend of hers ( he likes her and doesn’t want her to get back with me )
They are together everywhere, in class ,in market & in the park. I created a scene initially that she left me. A big scene but appologised. Now it’s been a month. she said she misses me badly, Love’s me but not sure about me. Another thing to note is that she said she treated her male friend as a shouldler to cry after breakup and he has supported her and now it won’t be nice if she’ll leave him suddenly as she is not yet sure about me. She is acting all hot and cold also sometimes she reply sometimes not.. sometimes she doesn’t even open my msgs when she’s out. Help!!!!!I’m in the same position. Ex gf has a new bf that I know about via instagram. She hasn’t told me herself though and since recontacting she’s made her insta private. Presumably she doesn’t think I know.
Everything was going great this weekend, then suddenly Monday came and..nothing. Still nothing today (wed). I’ve gotten myself into a pretty shitty situation where I want to tell her I know about him and say something along the lines of “I’m sorry, but I can’t have you in my life if you’re with someone else. It’s too painful because I still have feelings for you. We need to stop talking so I can move on”.
However, this is the course of action I’m going to take, because I believe it makes me look better, and has greater chance of success: Keep pretending I don’t know, because if she hasn’t told me herself and doesn’t want me to find out, that clearly means she still wants me and doesn’t want the above to happen (which it will if she does tell me). I’m not going to contact her today and tomorrow, regardless of whether she initiates or not. I’ll initiate on Friday, and go from there. All I can do is try not to worry and have confidence that the cards will fall in my favor if I play my hand right. She’ll leave him on her own accord, probably never tell me about it, and we’ll be together again in a matter of weeks.
But what’s the alternative? Freak out, worry, generally have an excruciating experience as I go through this crucial time? No. Follow my example and just keep focusing on yourself, and following the day-by-day texting sample from the Art of Texting article on here. Victory will be yours and the less effort you expend achieving it, the stronger you will feel and show.
Ironically, as I was typing that last post, she messaged me. She’s not cold and her message was in reply to the last thing I said. I don’t feel that there is a good response to her reply without making it feel forced, so I’m not going to respond.
So unless she initiates something new today, I won’t message her until Friday.
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