Elephant in the Room Message

Hey.

So I was previously in a relationship for 2 and a half to 3 years. We had a pretty turbulent breakup about 3 months ago and never truly started no contact until 2 months ago. I made a lot of the mistakes that Kevin speaks about in his articles before this true no contact period.

Ultimately, I’ve grown a ton from the time I’ve had away and realized a lot of behaviors and perspectives that I had during the relationship and breakup that were beyond things that I initially found wrong in the relationship and with me. It’s allowed me to grow extensively as a person and feel great about what I’ve been able to achieve in stepping away.

So about a week ago now, I wrote a concise letter to my ex in the form of the Elephant in the Room message that Kevin also speaks about in many of his articles. I feel very good about how I handled this letter and myself now, and have gotten feedback from many friends and some people who know me (or me in the context of being with her) very well.

I’m not trying to be pushy and obviously no one knows what’s going on in someone else’s head, but I do know that I was contacted through a friend of hers earlier in the summer regarding housing for this upcoming semester and that my ex unblocked me from Instagram on my birthday. We also spoke for substantial periods of time during the breakup (often 1hr-2.5hr convos), despite high emotions and tension. It was only when I felt like I had to mention the over-involvement of one of her friends in the breakup that she was sent over the edge and ended up blocking me on text and Instagram (which she unblocked me from later during no contact). Note I was blocked not Snapchat or Facebook, and that I’m still followed on all platforms by all of her friends.

I haven’t received a response and don’t know if I will this summer. We are going back to school together during August and I’m just wondering how realistic it is that I will get a response at this point, and what I should do regardless. Is it ok to reach out over social media in a couple weeks after the air is cleared? Or would it be better to just let it all sit until late August when we go back to school together since I sent the Elephant in the Room letter already? Maybe unblocking her on Instagram would be more incentive for her to reach out, but I’m also on the fence about that.

All advice is welcome and appreciated. Thank you!