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so I did no contact and then reached out. We had been txting and I asked her to a baseball game. We went yesterday and it was the first time we saw each other since the breakup. It was good we had a real nice time. We kissed a little when we said goodbye and she said we should do something again and I said I would love to. I went to the bar and got kinda drunk. I snap chatted her something and we joked about it and then I said something but there were a lot of typos and I can’t remember what it said. I don’t think it was anything bad or desperate. She opened that this morning and this aftenoon I txted her “So I’m not 100% what my last Snapchat message said, but I am 100% that it was spelled incorrectly 😁” and she hasn’t responded. Did I blow it?
Small update: I txted her again that evening and asked her to tell me about the new bar she was trying out that night and she never responded. What do I do at this point? I know I probably shouldn’t text her but there’s a part of me that wants to say that I hope I didn’t do anything to make her uncomfortable. She had been really receptive to it all and now she’s gone radio silence. Does anyone have any advice? I’m trying to stay calm but it’s tough
@Green55 – You wrote:”We kissed a little when we said goodbye and she said we should do something again and I said I would love to”.
You don’t need to say you hope you didn’t do anything to make her uncomfortable, but you might apologize for the drunk text. It sounds like you both had a good time at the baseball game and she’s the one who mentioned doing something again. Don’t ever smother her by texting too much! Wait for her to initiate contact the next time. Control your drinking and don’t get drunk again! Good luck.
Thanks for the advice. I’m definitely taking a drinking hiatus for a while. Would you suggest texting/reaching out again? At this point there’s been two texts (sent two days ago) that she hasn’t responded to. The only other time she’s ever gone radio silence like this is when we broke up. If I do reach out should I apologize for the drunk text, or be casual and pretend like nothing’s wrong? I’m worried she got freaked out and I’ll just keep texting into the void and look super desperate.
@Green55 – Okay, you could try one more very short text to apologize, but it’s not a good that she didn’t respond to the other texts. Maybe she was busy over the weekend could be a reason, but I don’t know. The main thing is NOT to text too much and if you do, YES you will look desperate. Control your urges to text her and be more patient. I’m wondering if you have a drinking problem and maybe that’s one of the reasons she broke up with you?
Thanks. I don’t think it has so much to do w the drunk text as maybe she got freaked out about the kiss etc. The drunk thing was a total fluke, happens very rarely. I think I might send something but what if she doesn’t respond to that. If it hadnt been going well before this I would know to let it go, but it had been going really well. Thanks again.
Stop trying to guess why she hasn’t responded. You wrote in your other post that one of the reasons she broke up with you is because you were too needy. Whatever “needy” means, don’t do it anymore. If you text an apology, then you have no choice but to wait for a response. If she doesn’t respond, it might mean she doesn’t want to hear from you anymore. Curious as to how long you were in a relationship together? What went wrong? How old are you two?
Maybe it would be better to call and apologize.
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