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What are your thoughts on dating other people and/or having sex during NC? On the one hand, it should help get over her, rebuild confidence and acceptance that the relationship is over. On the other hand, should I be focused on just getting her back and obstaining? Would she take negatively finding out I have been with someone else and that will hurt reconciliation? (note: this question is asked for situations NOT to do with cheating, which changes the answer).
On a personal note, I don’t care to have sex with anyone else, but I do feel it will help me build acceptance of the end of the relationship, should the situation arise. I’m about to go on a trip. Should I be open to it?
According to the guide on the main website, going on a few casual dates seems to be recommended. It’ll help you see that there’s other women out there, not just your ex. I wouldn’t recommend dating beyond just individual one-offs. At that point you’re risking a rebound, which won’t be good for anyone involved.
The site here suggests that you should go on at least one date during NC. I don’t think it says anything about having sex.
However, I can say that for me, seeing someone else and having sex during NC did help a little. If you do, I’d be careful not to rebound. I would not advertise it if you have seen anyone else when you end NC. It’s really none of her business anyway, as you two are broken up.
Dating and/or having sex with someone else won’t help you get your ex back. In fact, if she finds out, she will think you weren’t serious about trying to get her back. Dating/sex won’t help you get over her if you’re still in love with the ex because you’ll be thinking of your ex, you’ll make comparisons, and you’ll be sad. Self esteem arises within, you don’t need anyone to elevate it, and you already know there are other women out there.
I suggest you place your focus on one thing at a time. Address the issues that caused the breakup. Then if at some point over time you feel it’s not going to work out, start dating after you heal from the breakup.
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