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Okay so on Thursday after our class we had a good talk, it was really good. we went to grab a food and came back to school so she can drop me off by my car. we talked probably around 2 hours. Few times it was awkward because she will say something or i will say something from past and we both remember the good times we had and feel sorry for each other but over all we had a good time. While leaving she said will talk later and i was like okay. I haven’t send her a first text because couple of times when i did, she kinda acted like she was bothered so i stooped sending her first text and whenever she text me i will reply her but its really short maybe like 4-5 text back and forth nothing specific just how are you kinda stuff.
So today is Saturday, its kinda late and I’m sure she wont text me and that means i haven’t talk to her since Thursday. I feel like i am overreacting but i was hoping that she will, i thought she will text me today. I knew she wont on Friday, no specific reason but i just had a gut feeling that she wont but i was expecting she will today and didn’t. She just posted snap on the snapchat and looks like she went out just now, i haven’t looked at where and what she posted but it looks like she’s at the bar or theater. Anyway is it normal for me to expect the text or am i just overthinking ? I wanna get back with her and wanna do all the right thing to have any chance to get back with her but sometimes i just tend to overthink everything..
Pedro, The break up was recent and you had a good talk Thursday. If you want a chance, don’t smother her again. I know you’re anxious and “wanting” her to text you, but “expecting” is different. Try not to expect things, it’s not normal. But it is normal to hope for and wish she would contact you. You’ve started many new posts the last month and it kinda shows how stressed out you must be feeling, but please try to calm down and just go with the flow..
Thank you again Patricia….yes I’m really stress I am stress because school is about to end and we’re so close to graduation that after the graduation I feel like this all will be over and she will be far gone.
She texted me around 2 in the morning, I was awake but I didn’t responded. I still haven’t replied her back….idk if I should or not.
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Pedro@Pedro – What did she say in the text? I don’t think it’s a good idea to ignore her since you two are on good speaking terms. But the main thing is she DOES NOT want you to smother her with too many texts or any more begging etc.. You can NOT control what she does after graduation. I know you think about it, but it won’t help change anything to be stressed about it. What will be, will be.
What are you going to do with yourself after graduation?@Patricia12 she just said Hi, i don’t know why she will send me text 2 in the morning i don’t think she drunk texted me she’s not one of those person. I responded back to her this morning saying hi and she responded immediately the moment i hit the send button she typed. She said good morning and told me that she went out with her friend and have a hangover and i said you poor thing and that was it, she didn’t responded me back after that. This was around 9 in the morning today. I can’t understand why will she text me 2-3 text and then completely ignore me, does it show me needy when i respond back to her text. Should i need to start doing like the way she’s doing, i don’t think that will help and its plain simply rude but she keeps on doing it and i am kinda frustrated and hurt. I am not expecting her to text me 24/7 or text for an hour that is too early right now but all i wish was when she text me i wish she will keep it little bit longer.
Yeah its totally up to her what she wants to do but this is one of the hard thing to go through when someone have so much power. I was thinking maybe i should ask, may be i should ask her what is she thinking does she wants to get back together in near future or is she completely moved on and just want to be friends does she sees any possibilities of trying to work it again. I can’t just be friends with her, how can you be friends with someone who knows everything about you. Someone you thought you will marry, i am not saying if you dated someone you have to marry them but when the love and the feelings is true you can’t change that and be just friends. My heart think its too early to ask i should give her time and have patience but at the same time my mind is like why keep on waiting if she don’t see any possibilities. Its been 30 days since we broke up.
Also one random thing, i deactivated my Facebook account. I unfriend her as you might remember because she was mad about what i posted in my status when i shared i made sure she was the only one who could see it, that time she didn’t believed me but now she does. it wasn’t anything bad or mean it was just a sad quote that i wrote, What do you recommend should i activate it again and if i do should add her again. Her grandpa was in my friend list too, should i add him again and oh by the grandpa she’s really close with him and she told me she still haven’t said that we broke up does that mean anything or am i just overthinking.
After graduating I’m about to apply to one of the IT school in Austin i already started the process, its really hard to get in but thats my plan. After i graduate i am planning to go down there and talk with them and start the process. I am trying to enroll myself to became a Data Scientist which is really a big thing in IT fields right now, i actually told her about this and she was like i am really proud of what you are doing at first she kinda looked shocked but then she was like thats really good that you’re doing it. I was gonna go do my master but it was too expensive for me to afford and this thing is pretty close to master. They teach you the same thing but in less time 3 months to be exact they will prepare me for the real world, its something like ITT technical Institute. If for some reason i am not able to get enroll as you know I’m doing Training courses right now i will get the certificate and look for job thats my plan B.
I really appreciate your help Patricia.
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Pedro@Pedro – Sounds like she still wants to stay in touch, but her texts are rather light with no real substance. If she texts again, keep it short like you did the last time. No, it doesn’t show you as needy to reply, it shows that you’re polite. You could reactivate your Facebook, but only add your grandfather. Yet is might be better NOT to reactivate it until the situation with your ex is resolved one way or the other. I understand you’re wanting to know what she might be thinking as far as a possible reconciliation goes, so maybe as you get closer to graduation you could ask her. I don’t know if she would agree to see you, but it might be better to do this in person either at a lunch or after school sometime..
@patricia thank you so much for your quick response, yeah her text don’t make any sense. I will see how she behaves in school i am thinking about asking her for lunch on Tuesday we have couple of hours break between the 3rd and the 4th class i will ask her tomorrow i will try to ask her in person but i don’t know if she will be by herself when i see her i am not gonna bring up anything if she agrees for lunch i just want to have a nice lunch with her like we use too, this is still fresh i guess. It feels like eternity to me but i should give her sometime.
I do feel like she still loves me but just don’t wanna admit it because that will show her inconsistency and show that she wasn’t brave enough. I mean if she was done with it and wanted to completely end it why send me message, i never send her the first message and she knows what i want so if she didn’t want the same then why keep messing around with me. She also knows that i can’t just be friends with her. I really want it to work with her but now its what it is i guess, people say time heals maybe it will take little bit longer for me but it will heal. Once again thank you.
Pedro.
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