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We were only together for 2 months, both in our mid 40’s, want the same things, got along great, said he was already deeply in love with me… His schedule change at work directly affected time we could spend together, not to mention financially. We were both upset about his new schedule. I complained literally a couple of times, he texted me that he was sorry that he didn’t want to waste my time. Didn’t talk to me for a day, then texted me about returning something of mine. I asked him if he was dumping me, he said yes. I asked why, got no response. I apologized via text the next day for complaining about his schedule, but got no response. Havn’t heard from him since. The thing is that when we talked about relationships he said whatever it was we could work it out. That’s what partners do, and how important comuncation was. Yet he didn’t comunicate with me at all. He had an ex in the past that drove him crazy nagging him. We weren ‘t together long enough for me to drive him crazy. I think dumping me was premature. He didn’t even give me a chance. The way he talked to me, and the things he said to me, we were great together. So almost 3 weeks NC and I am sad and heartbroken. I feel like it’s been an eternity. I am not all needy and stalker-like. He un-friended me on FB last week. I know he has been back on the dating site. I deleted my profile on dating site today, and deactivated my FB. Just feeling really down and can’t understand. Will NC work? Any insight would be appreciated.
His moves seem drastic but if he tooka cut in pay it could be a blow to his esteem. As a guy I can relate. Your complaint may have pushed him away. Especially if his last GF was on his case often.
I’m new here and have a mess on my hands. Just started NC two days ago LOL He may be taking the changes, and your reaction, to heart but I’d think NC and enough time would soften him up. Remember any dates he has are likely rebound.
Hey,
When did he start dating you,and when did he break up with his ex?
The most important part of NC is about you,not him.you should feel happy and confident again without him in your life and NC makes your partner to forget the negative memories and begin to miss you.Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.You should follow the 5 step plan.it will increase your chances.
Thanks for your response, I can understand about the pay-cut. He kept saying to me that he was going to be broke for the month not only because of double car payment, but less work hours. I understood, there was nothing I could do. It was only the 3rd week into his new schedule, I think it was starting to take a toll on him. Still called all the time and texted, but his morale was down.
I hate to analyze it to death. The fact of the matter is that if he didn’t have money for gas to drive to my house 3 weeks ago, I find it hard to believe he has any money to take someone else out.
He broke up with his ex a year ago. She cheated on him while he was over the road trucking. He was trying to better his life\their life but she kept nagging.. So he said. We have been dating since the beginning of June. Broke up 2 1\2 weeks ago.
OK,i don’t think if you were in a rebound relationship.so if you think you were in any type of a serious relationship and both of you loved each other,so you do have a chance to get him back.
Follow the 5 step plan.Best of Luck
Don’t be sad,no matter what happens,everything is gonna be fine.don’t worry if he hasn’t contacted you.you can contact him later.be happy and positive and i’m sure you will feel better soon.
I have my moments. Over the past few weeks I have been journaling and talking with friends. Going out and so forth. I am just tired. It is emotionally draining to try to stay busy when you are bummed.
I know exactly how you feel but only you can help yourself.take up a hobby do something that you always wanted to do.no matter how hard the situation is,do something and you will feel better.
No i’m not the moderator,but some of us have been here for a long while,from the time kevin was more active here.he has been busy lately and we are trying to help people dealing with hard situations.
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