After doing everything wrong, seeing my ex: the 1 week countdown

My ex broke up with me in May. We were two weeks shy of our 1 year anniversary. I understand why…we were both in unhappy places and couldn’t seem to make the other person happy. Mostly I was unhappy and he stopped trying and listening and he said some pretty cruel (but true) things at the breakup because I had gained some weight.

For about two and a half months after the break-up we kept seeing each other periodically. No sex! Most of the time things went pretty well, but there was still anger and hurt and both sides being weary of the others motives. Basically, because of not going through no contact we were still in the same bad place. And going forward, I think I may have ruined our chances because I was the one pushing for reconciliation.

So, I finally did no contact for a full 30 days.

But when I contacted him, he told me to stop, there is nothing to talk about, he doesn’t have those feelings anymore. (Also, someone told me they had seen him hanging out with a married woman he went to high school with, which I think might be part of the reason behind him losing interest in me.) Which I think was more heartbreaking than when he originally ended it, because now with time and having dated other people I did decide I wanted him back.

So, I waited a week and I contacted him again. Told him I got tickets to the ice hockey game because I know he was really excited about going…I did NOT ask him to go with me, just brought up a topic that I know interests him.

He didn’t say anything.

Two days later I saw pelicans and he had this running joke, do I text him and told him and he actually responded with what’s up. We had a good conversation. He asked what made me get tickets to the games and I told him cause it sounded like something fun to do. He said it is and that I would have a great time. Then he told me maybe he would see me there sometime, gotta go. That was two days ago and I haven’t heard from him.

Now, in 8 days the social club we belong to and first met at is having an event. I’m sure he thinks I won’t go because of us splitting and he didn’t mention it. I was a member there before meeting him and have no intention of quitting. I was asked to help out for the event and said sure, and was told, just so you know, he’ll be there.

So, I guess my plan is to just show up and look like a million dollars. I’ve lost 30 pounds since the original break. I’m getting my hair and nails done next week. I am going to do a little mini no contact since our last communication, will be 10 days total.

I guess I’m just hoping that seeing each other will maybe spark something. But worried that this may also be confirmation that it’s over. Do I even have a chance to turn this around because I broke pretty much every single rule on this site multiple times… Any advice?