ADHD & Relationship

Hello all,

How do you guys think about people who have ADHD and are somewhat high sensitive?
Because they tend to hop from relation to relation because of their impulsivity and (my thoughts) the need to stay in the limerence period as well as they have a hard time to commit.
My ex once admitted, that in her younger years (she’s 34 now) she most of the time had enough of a relation after about 3-4 months.

My relation with her, was going really well! We shared many many interests, we spend almost every time of the day together and we really had that emotional connection.
We even had plans to live together as she really felt this was something special she didn’t have before.
Yet she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, after a 6+ month relationship.

The problem was that she also had trust issues when I went out to/with my friends. (because of her past relationships)
She also was very insecure about herself and many times she cried about it because she thought I would leave her for it in the end. And because of her past trauma we got in small quarrels and discussions overtime and she was really afraid this could come stand in between us! (which eventually it did)

She found me attractive psysical and emotional, and she really wanted it to work from within her heart! Because she saw how good I was for her and everything I did for her.
She told me she did not want to give in and tried not to run away from it. But I think somewhere deep down inside she still had that trust issue she could not let go off.

Also in the beginning of our relationship I was a very secure and confident guy and she told me that she really liked that about me. But as time went by and due to her own insecurities and trust issues towards me,
I got insecure myself and therefor needy and clingy, which made her lose more attraction for me and she eventually broke up.

I tried to convince her to look at it with reason, went by her house to talk with her but she found it really hard to give a good explanation at that given time. But we did came to an agreement to have another thought about it. But later that day I got an text message saying she did not want to talk anymore and for her the book was closed. She told me she didn’t have the right feeling for me anymore and said she could not do, and did not want this anymore, and said I should try to let go of her.

But I really find that hard to understand or believe! I have a feeling she just wants that limerence feeling again. Because she once spoke of that, and its a common practice for people who have ADHD. I even have the feeling she might be with someone else already to get that feeling again. I asked her about it but she said that wasn’t the case.

Its my birthday today, and I did get a birthday card from her, but it feels strange and odd and don’t know what to think of it since its only 2 weeks ago. It was her choise to breakup but it wasn’t on bad terms.

Do I still have a chance? Or is this something totally different?
I am currently on day 6 of NC.

Thank you very much,

Siete Bouman