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Me and my ex were supposed to celebrate 4 years this month. We’ve been broken up for almost two months now and she moved out two weeks ago. To keep the story short and to the point she found a rebound like a week after she broke up. We’ve seen each other a few times and i felt that she sent me a lot of mixed signals, trying to be close to me and giving me hope that she only needed some time but that we then would try again. Right before she moved out we had a fight where i called her out, and i felt that she then did everything in her power to be very straight with me and close to mean. I told her that now everything is very clear and i’m gonna move on, and a part of me really wants to. I said bye and hung up the phone.
I’ve now started the NC since she moved out but just found out from a friend that she and the rebound are now in a “relationship”. She hasn’t tried to initiate any contact, which makes the NC easier i guess. My question though, could she really have moved on this quickly? In the beginning i thought that she was trying to distract her self but now i’m starting to rethink it.
I really need your advice!
Thanks in advance.You are doing great, why you are so worried mate?!
Look a sign that she is with this new guy is to get over you but she cant, she want this guy to remove you from her thoughts, her brain is all over you and believe it or not, she probably thinking of you all the time
So NC will help lot and things will go good, if she called or text, do not ignore, ever, just replay and be nice, don’t mention break up or getting back together, how are you hows everything, when she ask how are you, say i am ok
You are doing beautiful just keep going
Thank you for replying. 🙂
I thought that during NC i should’n answer calls/texts? Like i said, she hasn’t tried to contact me since she moved out but i just want do be sure not to mess up if she would reach out.
Another thing. In a month from now an old fling is coming to visit me from abroad. She knows who he is, and she knows that he lives abroad. (so he is traveling far to get here) I was thinking that i would post pictures once he’s here, hoping that that will trigger emotions. Is this smart or not? I just really feel like i don’t mean anything to her and neither did our relationship, at least that’s how she’s acting. I want it to hit her really hard, that she messed up and is about to loose me. What do you think?
I am not quite sure about that but would you think jealousy might messup things more, you can take 2 pictures so it doesnt look obvious that you trying to ger her also, this might effect you too, you will be woundring if she saw it, if it bothered her now, and right now you dont need that,
My suggestion is dont try to fet her pissed at you and make things look beautiful, then when you have the chance to talk with her, she wont think of those things like you made her jealous or angry, and she will talk to you normal about the things you want
🙂
Does that make sence
Yeah, i get what you’re talking about. I definitely wouldn’t “overdo” it. I guess my biggest problem and issue is the fact that she “moved on” so fast with someone else and she is now saying they are in a relationship. I kinda want to shake things up for her, because she’s pretty used to always knowing where she has me.
If i wont hear anything from her by when the NC period is over that means that i’m gonna be the one reaching out to her. The thought of it sucks, mainly for my ego. Is this normal? how was it for you? what do you do?!
I am still working on lots of things, and one of them is to focus on my self even she dont reach out to me, i will make sure when i reaxh out for her she goinf to fall in love with me again, i am in the 4th day NC and will try to contact her on the 7th or 10th.
I want you to keep something in your mind and please dont messup things like i did, YOUR GIRL HAS NOT MOVED ON, it can not happened that fast, also if she is with him because of you, she can not forget you, so just work on your things, be better of your self and once its the time to contact her, she will will feel something is different
Be great, stay greatest
Okey, so you’re planning on reaching out to her really soon. How is it that you seem so calm and collected? I figured that the people who would give advice would be the ones that already went through this process and came out on the other side, successfully. But i really hope it will work out for you! What happened in you’re relationship?
Today i’m on day 17 and i haven’t seen a single sign that she’s even thinking of me. A mutual friend of ours is seeing her tonight, and she doesn’t know that me and the friend started hanging out again. So i’m curious to hear what she will find out.
You can be in control when you know how good you are and how amazing things you done for her and suddenly she changes not you,
I meet her online and we loved eaxhother, after months i went half the world to see her, I did not care about money, Job, House, i took what i can and went to see her, i stayed there for one week and then left to go home, few days she start acting strange and things seema not alright, so i asked her to be close friends for now and i messed up later, i removed her from my facebook and blocked her everywhere, i messed her lot and i did that to give my self space to not think of her,
Later i sent her a letter why i did it and she blocked me too and removed me,
Few days later on her birthday i sent her a nessage and she said thank you and did not deleted me, so i will start once again and see how things goes
Wow. well good luck to you. But you seem to be in control of the situation and know what to do, so that’s a big plus!
Another question though. I’m moving out by the end of the month and as i’ve started packing i’ve found some of her stuff. I also collected some things she left behind that we bought together, but i don’t want to keep them because they remind me of her. So i put all the things in a bag. Should i tell her that she should pick them up, or should i just have a friend give it to her? I feel that having someone give it to her might surprise her more and “hurt” her?
Do not focus on hurting her and focus on you, text her this:
Hello ( Name )
I hope you doing well, I wanted to let you know that while i’m packing my stuff I found somethings belong to you, would you like to come over to get them when you have time.
Ciao
Remember, Don’t panic or act needy, hug her if she wanted to but dont over react.
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