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So basically me and my girl were together for 2 years and it started getting repetitive in the last 2 months so she ended it with me and tried finding excitement with someone else, while she was with him she realized I was everything she wanted so she came back but she was with him for 2 months and when she came back to me she ended it a few days later because of all the guilt that had built up regarding what she did to me and how she left me all alone and the fact she got in bed with him within 5 weeks just to get over me.
So then she wanted to just be friends because the relationship wasn’t working out, i said okay because I was hoping I’d try make her mine later down the line as the guilt subsides but then she eventually found out I was only there as friends because I wanted to make her mine because I got jealous one night because she was talking to a guy late at night when she had to wake up early the next day. I told her I can’t be friends with her anymore after she told me that she definitely doesn’t want us to get back together, so she was arguing with me about being friends whilst I was fighting for us to get back together. Eventually I just said bye to her because she refuses to see what we can have as a relationship and because it’ll hurt me to see her as a friend when I love her so much.
So I initiated NC and she asked a couple times if I am still not talking to her. So I sent her a birthday dress by post, bare in mind I bought this dress when we were friends, I wanted her to come back because of the dress after remembering how much I do for her idk, so she asked again if I am still not talking to her and then we spoke about us and she told me this when I asked her if anything is wrong with me regarding us as a couple and this is what she said :/
Yes you are perfect
Like you’re everything I’ve ever wanted in a boyfriend
But for some reason its just not enough something’s just missing
But you’re perfect and everything about you is and its weird but I want my next boyfriend to be like youWhat does that mean :/
I’m perfect for her but she doesn’t want me but she wants her next bf to be like me :/ what did I do wrong?
What can I do :/ I love her so muchHi Arjun :
Welcome back,i am still here…My ex also replies to my email if I send any after NC came twice to see me in person but still putting 0 % effort in meeting,text,email or talking.
She just don’t have any interest in me at all and its been a year next month.NC started on Jan 15 2015 tho and she was the one who emailed me after 40 days of NC
Coming to your situation I guess she did made up her mind not to be with you anymore,and her heart still wants you.I think she can’t feel much love for you,so that’s a reason she thinks in future if she has new b/f or relationship, she will look similiar to your attributes and be happy girl,she is thinking all better future compared to her past with you.Like they say other side always looks green.
And also looks like she is very stubborn like my ex and once they decide they will stick to there decision no matter what will be the end results and also when break happened… she might have looked at possible guys in market and I am sure there are plenty of them in market.
Not sure but my 2 cents.A girl here may be knows whats going on in her mind.
Take it easy and I know its very hard I am in same boat as you..:(
She’s loves you as a person but not romantically is what it sounds like. There is not much you can do in this situation. You can try to win her back but things may not go as you hope. My best advice (as i have gone through similar situations) is that you try to move on and try to live happy alone. Once you find happiness in being single and not needing her, thats when you try to get back in touch with her, whether it be 3 weeks or 3 months. And if she still rejects you then, then its time to just take her out of your life. But it won’t be as hard for you if you learn to be happy by yourself first. Trust me it may feel like the end of the world, I’ve lived it, it sucks and can take months to get over, but you WILL get over it. If things are meant to be they WILL be. And same with vice versa.
Agree with @ damonator,his advice is better than mine for sure and he has a point,looks like he is been there done that.
@ damantor can you please advice me on my post.Sorry Arjun,not trying to take your space here,hope you understand.
@damanator yeah I was advised by a friend that after exams which is like 3 weeks to just ask to meet up and discuss us and try one more time to see if it works out.
I might try to carry on changing things about myself such as maturing and changing dress sense and stuff and then when meeting up with her just try to have a nice day and let the joys of the day linger in her mind until she pops up.
What do you think?
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