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Hi,
My boyfriend and I have had a shakey relationship, he had left me and I tried to get over it but couldn’t so we were on and off and decided to be off until we are steady. We still were working on things but I stupidly went to another man when the times were rough (we were still not officially in a relationship). We got into arguments frequently and I told him I needed space to find myself. Being heartbroken and stupid, I slept with that other man. Now my ex says I cheated on him. I panicked and realised I wanted him back and now he doesn’t want me.
I’m still on no contact but on my second week of no contact I have been seeing some other guys and been intimate with one person on one occasion. I realised within the week that they are all just rebounds and I don’t want to date anyone anymore. My question is that if I get back together with my boyfriend should I tell him about these occurrences?
Thanks in advance for all your help!
that’s a tough one. I probably wouldn’t tell him, because he doesn’t need to know. If I found out now that my ex had been with other girls straight after we broke up I would be heartbroken and would much rather not know.
Thanks @kd1988 I was thinking the same. If he asks how should I address it? Tell him it’s none of his business and that if we want to work out we need a new slate?
Any other peoples help would be much appreciated as well, I will reply your threads 🙂
@minniexx IF he brings it up I would just say that you don’t need to talk about the past, just concentrate on the future. It’s probably better for his own benefit that he doesn’t know!Definitely all about a new slate!
If he finds out somehow and confronts you on it be honest and say they were nothing serious. My thinking here being honesty is the best policy usually and he knows anyways in this situation so owning up and saying it was a casual thing would be best. Otherwise do not say anything, you two weren’t together when it happened and he has no right to get upset or demand information from a time when you weren’t together.
What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. It’s different if he knew you were seeing them or sleeping with them, but if you’re single..because he left you…then I don’t see where that’s his business.
You weren’t single by choice. He put you in that situation.
I know my ex is seeing someone and most def. doing the dirt, but if I found out about someone else then I would be pretty pissed, especially 2 weeks after a break up.
Rebounds are Rebounds, everyone does it. Just don’t let it drag into your relationship if you two end up working things out.
You know hes going to ask, so either tell a white lie, because the honesty will most likely hurt the relationship
Hi M 🙂
Sorry I wasn’t online in quite sometime and couldn’t reply.
To be honest, were I in your place, I would not tell him a thing right now. You were single at the time and really depressed. things happen. your ex possibly feels messed up as well right now, and somewhere blames himself as well. you should probably wait till he cools off a little, and can look past the ‘cheating’ as he puts it. give it some time. i would say dont go out with anyone right now. it may come off as desperate. work on yourself. on being happy. the most you can do is give it a week or two and then email your ex or send a letter, saying you are sorry that things turned out this way and you want to give it some time and space as well and you understand he is hurt and will not push it or talk about this till he feels ready. that you hope in time you could both feel good about knowing each other again.etc.. whatever works.:)
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