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February 23, 2015 at 8:58 pm #32774
I just realized, although I agreed to tell my ex that i’m giving her her space. I told her that I still love her and I left the impression that i still want her. I feel like I shouldn’t of done that. That might backfire on me, and it gives her the upper hand.
February 23, 2015 at 9:22 pm #32780responses please
February 24, 2015 at 12:51 am #32797Umm.. you shouldn’t have done that: /
February 24, 2015 at 1:02 am #32798Damn…
Should I just leave it alone?February 24, 2015 at 1:06 am #32799She told me the same thing…
But it’s different cause she’s the one who broke up with me.February 24, 2015 at 1:11 am #32800Just do NC. AND DONT BREAK IT.
Even if she texts you or calls you for any reason. Dont respond.. only nc can help you with this.February 24, 2015 at 1:14 am #32802Besides those aspects. I think I remained stronger in our conversation. I kept it mature, I kept my composure, and made good points. I NEVER said i needed her, nor that i’m waiting for her, but she deserves her space to heal.
Should I write her a text saying i’m done with her?? I think I should rewrite this…February 24, 2015 at 1:17 am #32803Dont do anything now… once you are into a week of nc, it will be easier for you to remain into nc for rest of the period.
But for now, dont do anything.February 24, 2015 at 1:20 am #32805I was 2 weeks into NC when I did this.
Smh I feel bad now, this is going to ruin my chances 🙁February 24, 2015 at 1:22 am #32806You haven’t ruined your chances but you have to restart NC and wait a little longer.
February 24, 2015 at 1:25 am #32807How long should I do NC for?? She said she wants to heal and to give her a few months, I kind of want to do that too.
But should I wait till the 30 days are up to tell her I’m no longer interested in her and i’m moving on for good? I don’t know what I should do.February 24, 2015 at 1:31 am #32808In my opinion, you shouldn’t decide anything now. Wait for the situation to cool down. If you see my thread, i have decided that i will only break nc when i get what i want him to do. Because he treated me badly and hurt me alot.
I would say you should also take this time to heal yourself first and then think about what you gonna do after that. For now, dont break nc at any cost. A month to tell that you’re over her is very less. If my ex texted me this i would be sure that he wants my attention and nothing more.
See what happens in future and then decide what you want to do.February 24, 2015 at 1:38 am #32810Honestly, I don’t think she’s going to message me at all. Our break up is still fresh, it happened on the 6th, all she has been feeling lately is anger and disappointment like she mentioned on the call. She said i’m going to have to earn her trust back, and it isn’t going to be that easy.
I really wish we could sit down and just talk but she doesn’t want to do that because her feelings for me will “rush back” to her.
*sigh* this whole situation makes me sadFebruary 24, 2015 at 1:47 am #32811I can understand but the serious talk can only happen after nc period. Its going to be much easier for you if she doesnt text you. Trust me its so difficult to ignore your ex when all you want is to get back with them.
A text from them gives us support and satisfaction that they still remember us but its difficult to ignore them as well.
Dont worry its all going be okay soon.
Follow the five steps and work on yourself. May be join a gym.February 24, 2015 at 1:51 am #32812Just to clarify, NC should be as long as it takes me to feel good about myself, correct? I wouldn’t mind a text from her, at least it’ll show me she still cares…
And yes, I did join a gym. I start going this week. -
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