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Hi,Here is my situation.I dated this girl for 4 years as now and had a great time.She loved me like no one else did all this years of my life.I loved her too but because of my ex wife,my kid,my finances,cases,emotional dramas and financial struggle my life was very complicated and tough all this 4 years but my g/f stood by during this hard time.She begged me every day to get married from last 1.5 years but I couldn’t as of my cases were not done with my ex,but I did gave her good ring to confirm that my intentions towards marriage are serious.One of the days I would say worst day of my last few years,we had a fight and I blocked all communication with my g/f for like approx. 15 days.But after 15 days I realized and started missing her importance every second of my life.
But I realized that things weren’t the same and my g/f was very cold and rude and gave me all mixed signals.Now its been 7 months that I tried everything which can be text,send flowers,cards,choclates,said sorry 1000s times,gifts or anything possible but now she hasn’t bug at all and tells me all different reasons and keep putting all blaims on me.She is been very rude,ignorant and cold.Met me only 4-5 times in last 7 months only.I have started doing NC and its been close to 13 days.She still has my ring and hasn’t returned it yet.Guys please advice that if this NC is going to work or not,and what went wrong I am willing to do anything to get her back and she knows this and also aware that I do love her very much.
But now she tells me to move on as she has moved on with her life and she will not come back to my life.I still have some hope which is NC and I am hoping after I finish NC there will be some good results.Please Advice and thanks in advance !
hey
as you know we are in a same boat…I onlly advice you to try to be happy and complete your NC..its more important to take care of yourself during NC. dude don’t make your relationship more mess by pleading pr begging her…just do for your own and wait for time to change for your good. . .best of luck
@kalicooldude sounds like she still has feelings for you from what I read but I still can not know it anyway…Way to go with the NC, I believe it will work out someway..
@kalicooldude In the beginning its like one day seem like a month but day by day it gets a little bit easier for you to continue stronger..
@kalicooldude I’ve been wanted to mary my ex, and it lasted for 2 years…we broke up last Friday…I was very very angry and mad at him for fooling me again, yelled at him told him to do whatever shts he wants and hang up the phn without saying a goodbye. Then hes emailing me the next day saying a part of him finished us sometime ago as if I didnt clear it all up over the phn a day before, saying sorry about hurting me blah blah..just to hurt me more
Thanks @ Melinda not sure if my g/f sill has some feelings for me,its been 7 months so don’t have an accurate answer for it.But,I am hoping she does,she is the one who told me to move on and stopped communication after I blocked her for 15 days.I know if she got really hurt or found some new guy..not sure about this.
Thanks @ Rahul I didn’t beg but I did sorry 1000s times because I knew my faults and where I was wrong but I guess its too late to apologize now.I will try to do NC and see if this will help me out.Its not easy but there is no options either.
@kalicooldude
yeah try to do NC, but dude its seems so difficult to get her back. my case is same as yours …yesterday I messaged my ex on fb but she even didn’t respond…I think my situation is going more worst day after day. hope 1day she’ll realize my love..I really miss her…why she behaves so bad after breakup…Hi Rahul @ I thought you are doing NC,so why did you message her.She will be acting like this
1) She will not care about you at all.
2) She will not respond to you.
3) She don’t want to talk about you.
4) She will be ignorant,rude and distant.
5) She might be very pissed off as of her past,mostly it happens when the girl have very serious intention towards you and at your end you didn’t bother or cared and took her for granted.I am in same boat like yours but I did enough and now will do NC,also sometimes there is possibility that they did found new guy which is giving her full attention and love she anticipated from you when you were in relationship.
So chances are 50/50 again I am not expert my situation is similar like yours.My girlfriend is also in anger,distant and rude from last 6 months it all happened when I blocked her from my cell for 2 weeks.I did everything possible except NC so this is my last resort and will have results soon.
@kalicooldude
you are right, but sometimes I thought that why she think about me and message me..if we had brokeup 5months ago and after that she didn’t msg me..so why now she gets affected by my NC..I think you need to do something … and show her how much u’changed … Can i know mkre about ur NC how how many days u in rn ?
I did NC earlier but it only last for 3 weeks and in middle of doing NC I sent my friend to follow her and see if she has any other guy,She saw him and changed her cell phone the next day.I got panic and called her and begged her again to come back and I am sorry for whatever has happened.But she was still cold and negative and gave all reasons for break up as she is been doing from last 6/7 months.Then I started doing NC again and I promised myself that I will never break my NC no matter what happens.
I started again on Jan 13th so its almost 17 days and I haven’t not heard back from her yet.My g/f is very stubborn type so I will do NC for atleast 3 months.And I am sure she is expecting my text on valentine which I will not do at any cost and made her think.I wont start NC rightaway first it is apology for mistakes you made and if that doesn’t work our for lets say 2-3 months than start NC (the last hope to get your ex back )
Use this … if u want to start NC.. send this message and be quiet after it …
Want to tell you that you were right about the breakup…I guess we do
need space.
Amazingly something wonderful happened recently…I guess when things
happen *
> *they happen for a reason…I am not sure to send her this text,let her figure it out and keep thinking,once I send her this text she will think that I am trying to re-connect again with her,morever she had already blocked me.
So I think I am going to keep myself quiet for 2/3 months and see her reaction.I did already did enough of begging,pleading,gifts,sorry,flowers,choclates,crying etc etc.
I don’t know if she is seeing someone else,i doubt but sometimes it is always a possibility.
Lets see and hope for best.My g/f really loved me and she was chasing me before and right after she got cold and distant I started chasing her and we both fucked up I guess.
NC works specially if u got stronger and make her think of u morethan u think of her
Well she is already strong that’s why she broke up with me its just me who has to regain my self respect and become stronger,like kevin said on website that there is difference between need and what you want.
I really want her and tried all options before,now will try to NC and see results.
I am hopeful it will work out but you never know every relationship and situation is different.
She will get good idea I guess when I will not text or do anything on Valentine day @
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