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I just started NC with my ex, I broke up with him but it was because of his drinking and I’m hoping he will clean up during this time apart.
We’re two weeks in and I feel horrible. How do I decide if I should wait 30 or 60 days to contact him? I want to know so badly how his addiction therapy is going and if he really is getting sober. I’m worried about his health. But I know there is nothing I can do, as no amount of support seemed to help.
So what decides how long you go for? I’ve read a lot about NC and I’ve seen both.
Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.If you don’t satisfy this after 30 days, continue no contact for another 30 days.
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