What is going on now?

Hey Creed,
sorry its been tough for you. obviously ive followed your story on here…

I think removing her from social media was prob the best thing you could do for yourself…

i feel like at the end of the day, you have to wait for her to contact you. but by wait, i mean move on with your life. dont you want to be with someone who actually wants to be with you?

my family keeps reminding me that the girl i first started dating and the girl that broke up with me are two very different people.. and the girl i started dating is gone.

Yeah I’m somewhat in a very similar situation like you. The differnece is I have been through this before; I wanted to get my gf back after me dumping her. This time im the dumpee but because of that I have some insight into how she functions. I do think each person is different, and the breakup reason does matter, however what has worked for me in this circumstance is to not be inviting with your answers. Basically women do this to stoke their own egos (sicne what better feeling to know you ex still bows down to you) so particularily after NC I would answer but leave it short and don’t invite another question or remark. If you can convey some indifference (and actually accept that youll be fine if you never end up together again) it will drive them crazy. Then start showing mixed signals. So maybe after being indifferent upon her texting you, shoot her a text about “I saw x and it reminded me of you” or something like that and then go quiet again. For me doing this really allowed me to not only gauge whether she was interested again but puts leverage on your side; which is the biggest favor you can do yourself in this situation. IF you become somewhat mixed and unpredictable from my experience it becomes easier to gauge whether she actually still wants you deep down or if she is just using you to stoke her own ego.

i think its odd she posted that to facebook. does she know youll be watching? its like shes bragging. she doesnt have to tell the world that

i think that it may be a combination of what you said, her job and studies are probably very stressful, at least at first. and she probably is convincing herself that she doesnt feel anything. ive had many female friends that treat me like ‘one of the girls’ and i have experienced them telling themselves and their friends the opposite of what they feel/mean. the only thing i feel you can do is give it and her time. she will settle into her job and studies. maybe she feels like she just wants to focus on that. but holidays will come and i don’t doubt youll be on her mind. she said you were the man of her dreams, i dont see how she could consider being with someone else. i think we all know how rare it is to come across the kinds of relationship youve described. either she knows what shes doing (whatever that may be) or she doesnt and is being silly..

i have a story to tell that may explain what ive written. My first major relationship, we were together for 2 years. i was 17 and she was 16. as one could assume, we hadnt found ourselves or grown up. we had the usual problems teenagers/immature relationships have (jealousy, possessiveness, immaturity, insecurity) but we were very much in love with each other. these things, of course, lead to the down fall of our relationship. we broke up twice, as i recall, both my fault. anyway, to the point, we recently started talking again and she told me that i had such an effect on her, she wasnt able to find someone who could provide her with what i did, and this is four years later. she told me that no one could satisfy her in bed either, which i could only bring down to mental/emotional attraction. she told me i still have a special place in her heart, and i even told her and asked her for advice on what she thinks may be going on with my ex now. FOUR YEARS LATER and she still isnt able to find what we had. and our relationship pales in comparison to the one that ive just come out of.