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Hi.
Just a short question about no contact. I was dumped by my gf. We were together for 3 years. I started no contact about two weeks ago. I sent her the final message that i apologize for terrorizing her with messages after the break up, for driving to her and begging and all that “mistakes”. Then I started no contact. After four days I met her while I was driving and when I saw her in her car, I just raised my hand to say hi. After five hours she texted me that she is wondering all the time about how can i act so “normally” after such a short time of our break up. But i was really acting, wanting to know her that i’m ok. Then she also actually answered to my apology in the last message. She said that she is sorry too and she also wants to apologize for everything. I didn’t reply and didn’t comment on her message, i didn’t explain, why i was acting normally, because i didn’t want to break my “no contact”. Should I do so? Should I just let her know that it’s tough for me topo, that i need time and space or was it ok that i didn’t reply and explain it at all?
Can you to tell me, what her reaction supposed to mean?Thank you very much for answer and everything you do.
drcho
@drcho – Just send a short note thanking her for her apology and that the breakup wasn’t easy for you either, but you’re okay and trying to do the best you can with the situation. If you haven’t already told her that you’re doing no contact for a month, add that in the note, the reason being that you need some time to heal. Don’t say you’re pretending or “trying to act normal”.
Thank you for your advice. I send a note just like you said. I received a message in half a minute. She said that she believes that this space and time are good for me and hope that i’m doing ok. With a sad smile.
Can you tell me, what can i make of it? What does it really mean?
Thank you very much…Glad you sent the note and that she replied. Now it’s time to start no contact. You need to think about the reasons she dumped you after 3 years of being together. Improve yourself related to those things.
Her message was she thinks the space and time will be good for you and she hopes you’re doing okay, so don’t try to read anymore into it than what was written as it won’t help you. Focus on yourself and your improvements. Good luck.
Thank you very much, patricia. Just the last question. I’ve been on “no contact” for two weeks till todays message. Should i take it once again from the start- 30 days, or should i continue these two weeks for another two to three weeks so that will equals 30 days?
Thanks once again.
@drcho – Start 30 days. Tomorrow will be day 1. Work on your issues..
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