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I do not know how to contact my ex after “no contact”, I wanted to give her a handwritten letter but I am afraid that if I meet her physically suddenly I will look like weird or obsessive or needy, I can not send her a message because we are blocked on all social media and in my opinion It’s not serious enough for a long and sincere apology letter “elephant in the room”.
How should I deliver the letter I wrote to her? Do i need go to meet her? find a way to give it to her without meeting? Find a way to send it in a message?
I dont want to look needy.thanks
@afek10 You don’t give any detail as to when and why she broke up with you or how long the relationship lasted or how long you’ve been doing no contact..
Email or message or send it in the mail. Depending on her response, you will know whether or not to ask for a meetup.
Hey @afek10 I’m currently re-acquainting with my ex too.
I ended NC about 5 days ago. She reached out to me and I sent a hand written letter to her the next morning.
Her response was quite positive, mentioned that she was also doing some growing too.My ex is a stationary and letter lover, so that decision was very easy for me. In the letter I mentioned that one of the biggest reasons for me sending a letter was that it had no time pressure for her to respond. It didn’t give me a read receipt, I wouldn’t know how long it would take for her to get it, or even if she would get it. I told her that if she didn’t feel comfortable, not to worry, I’d assume I got the address wrong and the letter was lost in the mail and I would try a text in another couple of weeks.
She got the letter the next day and responded as soon as she finished reading it.
I think the hand written letter is the way to go. There’s less pressure, while also a lot more personal and takes effort. Don’t hand it to her in person, post it to her address. Otherwise if you hand it to her in person it will come across as if you’ve written some things down, but when you saw her, you got too nervous and desperate to actually say them to her.
The other thing I want to mention is that communication with my ex is currently a bit hot and cold, and honestly, I’m ok with that, I think it’s normal, but I want to let you know my experience as well so you’re prepared.
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