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We met each other in highschool when we were 15.Became good friends and started dating when we became 16 but we could meet each other that often. Despite all that, we loved each other and grew stronger everyday. We planned our future together. In fact, he was one who proposed me when the relationship started getting serious.We had a serious and committed relationship for about 3 years. Though,our communication was going bleak we had the love for each other.But, I don’t why all out of blue , he said that it’s really over and he doesn’t want to be back with me again.I understood that he needed some space so I gave him what he wanted.
We both had a lot of new experiences together. Shared an emotional bond which was really deep. We understood each other without expressing our emotions in words.We had a emotionally and physically strong relationship.We were very strong ,supported each other in crisis and celebrated small wins together. He used to call me his wife and I used to call him my husband.
But suddenly he pull away.
He texted me by himself telling that he doesn’t know what’s would be our future and is doubtful about it.
It’s been 2 months today since he broke up with me.Initially, I was pretty debated handling this turmoil of emotions.But now I have learnt how to deal with it.I have been learning new things and practising self love.Though it’s been 2 months, he has always initiated the talk with me and I have always responded it. I still love him and I don’t know the day I would stop loving him.We do talk, but he is hot and cold.
I am ready to wait for him forever and wish to grow old with him.
Can we get back together? And if yes, please tell how we can.
Thank you for reading my story.
Love ♥️
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P.S. We come from a different faiths and cultural backgrounds. But we aren’t religious.I have also told him several times that I would happily convert to his religion if it requires.@Sal So you were dating 3 years and you’re both age 19 now?
What reasons did he give you for the breakup?
@patricia12 He said he does not know where our future leads (he said this one fine day when we were already committed to each other). He is also afraid of making our relationship public right now because we belong to different faiths. He is afraid as to how society would create problems for our families. But he was the one who made me the promises and commitment even when he was aware of our different religious background. I am not understanding why he suddenly pulled away, when we were happy with each other.
He does tell me that he feels happy and comfortable with me. We are in touch with each other. He initiates the conversation with a gap of not less than 3-4 days. He does make me laugh and reciprocates my love but, he does behave cold with me sometimes.I love him and would do anything to get us together.
P.S. We were in a long distance relationship for over a year.@Sal How old are both of you?? Were you seeing him in person for 2 years? How far apart are you now?? Why was communication going bleak? And finally, why are you distant from each other at this time?
People don’t just suddenly decide to break up with someone. Even if he didn’t discuss it with you, it’s something that he’s been contemplating for some amount of time..
The different family values, religious differences, or the distance might have affected his decision, unless he gave you any other specific reasons.
Don’t pressure him or try to change his mind. You already told him you would convert to his religion so don’t repeat it. There’s a possibility that it’s true in his own mind that it’s over and he doesn’t want you back. But since it’s only been 2 months since the breakup, there’s also a possibility he will change his mind.
Only time will tell what will happen. As long as he continues to initiate contact you, don’t be so concerned about hot/cold. He’s weighing all possibilities in his mind right now..
I’m sorry for your heartache. And good luck:)
@patricia12 Now we both are 19. We used to hang out and go out for rides.We do live same city now, as I have come back home. The communication went bleak because we became busy with our lives also I wasn’t allowed to communicate. My phone,tablet and the laptop was snatched by my parents (that’s another story).That’s how our communication went bleak, making it a text or two a day(I secretly texted him using other devices).
I am giving him his time and space right now as he wanted. And he does talk to me by himself.He also told me that he is keeping all the doors open for us, but he doesnt know how things will unfold.
I am not giving up on him because whenever we talk it’s fun as it used to be before. 🙂@Sal Okay. Age 19 is considered too young to get married here in the United States. Most couples marry at the approximate age of 25. As a general rule, people are more mature and settled into their careers when they are older.
You wrote on June 3 “I understood that he needed some space so I gave him what he wanted”. You gave him space for how long??
You might consider texting, calling, or emailing him to tell him you don’t want any further contact for about a month because you’re too upset right now and trying to process the breakup in your own mind. The space might give him time to miss you and consider what life would be without you.
@patricia Thank you so much for your condolence. <3
Yes, we are really young and would not marry this early. But, we were quite serious and took our relationship as long term.
I didn’t talk to him for about 2 weeks.After that, he texted me saying that he wanted to know my whereabouts and that he does love me and misses me.
Thereafter, we talked for not less than a gap of 3-4days.
I am trying to rebuild the relationship again with him and focus on myself as well.@Sal Sounds like you two are getting along well:) Good luck..
@patricia12 Thanks you so much.:)
I hope that we get back together soon. Waiting for him. 🙂
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