What are your thoughts

We had only been dating 5 months which is a massive shame as things were going really well then BAM things went abit crazy with the new job offer, losing his mate, stress & drinking.
I don’t want people to think oh for heavens sake grow up its not like years or anything like that.

Thank you Patricia means a lot responding to my posts.
No definitely not being a pest or anything like that I’m never on him all the time with texts or anything. That would be rather annoying when you’re stressed & have stuff going on. I wouldn’t like it if I was stressed out & busy.
I get that completely and hopefully I’ll never come across like that haha. Hopefully I just come across supportive for him.
We had abit of a heart to heart conversation tonight which I guess was nice but I also didn’t want it to go too deep so I was trying to keep it light.
I’m in no way wanting to rush something as my feelings were hurt and I don’t want either of us falling out.

I do hope we meet face to face though and I can also see how his getting on. I was concerned about his weight ect noticed that dropped when all this started so would be nice to see if his looking healthy. BUT like said I’m not rushing into anything and not pestering him. Hopefully that’s right thing to do.

No I haven’t once mentioned
Let’s get back together and haven’t once mentioned about meeting up. I said ‘ I’ll leave that down to you when you’re free I’m in no rush ‘ that’s what I wrote.
I also haven’t asked what his feelings are towards me or anything as I kind of want to see his own thoughts on me you know let them flow and not force anything. He has said he misses me and realizes what I done was trying to be really good to him his said that on his own.

We did have a bit of a issue over The Weekend I must say. He kind of went abit flakey on me and not sure why. He said he was up for going to this party with me on Saturday I said yeah sure here the details I said will be fun and relaxed and good atmosphere. Then the morning of the party he completely switched and I’m not sure why he wrote saying
This is all abit much i think you think we’re in a relationship and I feel really awkward sorry I won’t be attending.
I was in complete shock angry and hurt by that.
I wrote back saying where on earth has this come from Iv never said we’re together where did you get that from and you wanted to come and now you don’t and I’m sorry if made you feel awkward and if I make you feel that way then perhaps we shouldn’t be talking. It kind of makes me think his just made an excuse and gaslighted me to flake not meeting. I’m not sure if it’s because his still confused, maybe drinking still, mental health still not correct or his insecure I really don’t know.
Anyways after a few hours later I was at the party with friends and he text me saying I wish I was there with you shame I can’t drive there as I’m down at the pub so can’t drive and I wish I could give you a big kiss. I wrote back saying you could of came and I think there’s been a miss communication somewhere And it’s a shame and wish tonight planned out differently.

Now that’s happened Iv kind of stepped back and not texting him as I think perhaps he needs to reflect on what on earth happened. And I’m also abit upset that it kind of seemed like it was my fault.
His blamed me before for things like gaslighted I feel like and I don’t like that at all. Honestly all Iv done is try be nice & supportive of the guy because of what his been going through but I’m like treated abit poorly. So I think perhaps best thing for me to do now is not contact him and see if reaches out. Hopefully you’ll agree that’s best option after reading this?

I noticed he was drinking more after his friend killed himself and he started the new job. So I put it down to stress of everything. Then it kind of got worse and worse that’s when he ended things with me and I decided to block him for 3 months as I couldn’t deal with any longer.
Before that he seemed pretty chilled out guy. His family seemed lovely and chilled out too. I see no warning signs. After that 3 months period he reached out to me on social media and apologized to me and said his in a better path in life and is growing up. I said I was extremely worried about him and all I wanted to do was be nice and help.

The 3 months of no contact is probably not long enough for someone to turn their life around. And perhaps he needs to seek some Counselling for the loss of his friend and also the pressure of this new job.
My dad worked in the city and he went through the same thing he went into drinking so much due to the stress. City jobs can be really stressful and Iv seen it first hand. I don’t think this guy is settled at all you know in this new job I don’t think it’s healthy for him.

We’ve not been in touch since Saturday neither of us have reached out. Iv kept the no contact going. Hopefully that’s the best thing to do.
He is meant to have a meeting near my town soon not sure if that’s still going ahead or not sure but he said after the meeting he wanted to take me to some food. Perhaps I should wait and see if he reaches out about that. He wanted to properly talk to me and explain what’s been going on but I don’t want to put pressure on that situation.

Hopefully Iv done the right thing.
Sorry if I sound pathetic sometimes I suffer with anxiety.

Sorry for the confusion No He mentioned he had a meeting wayy before with what happened Saturday.
He said he would be in my home town I believe this Friday or next Friday ( I deleted the text when I decided to go no contact Sunday morning So forgotten exactly when ) and he wanted to take me for some food and drinks after his meeting and to talk properly about things. That is what he said.
I said yeah sure. And obviously I don’t know if that’s still going to happen or not I kind of have left it down to him hopefully that’s the right thing to do considering with what happened on Saturday?