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I received this email from my ex after 16-17 days of NC. “I am writing, violating your restriction against me for which i apologize, to tell you that I have not stopped thinking about you. Not since that last moment. I knew as soon as i made the decision to not see you again that I would regret it because I felt that I was making a huge mistake and I knew it. But I was scared for you, for us and the future that we would have.
I want you to know that I still love you as much as I did and it will be that way for a very very long time. I do ask you not to respond please. I really just wanted for you to know you are not in this alone. I love you and hope you have happiness and love around you at all times. You were the highlight of my year.”
I really need your advice on what to do. I posted a short synopsis about my relationship 3 weeks ago in this forum.
I started no contact AGAIN after that post as my ex kept trying to contact me 10 days after I started my first UNANNOUNCED NC and I responded and my ex appeared nice for couple of days then distant so I said this second time “please do not contact me as I need sometime to heal and I promise you to contact you when I feel 100% good”. I did not hear from my ex until last night. I feel a lot better about myself and accepting the breakup, I’m “almost” over the breakup but still think sometimes about us. I really don’t want to blow it this time by saying something not right that’s why I’m asking for your advice. Should I respond to the email or wait for the whole 30 days? What should I say if I respond? We live in different cities but used to see each other weekly. Our relationship was for a little over 2 months but was intense. We broke up 2 months ago.
I’d say wait the whole 30. She doesn’t want you to break NC, so don’t. 🙂 And after you finish the 30 days, it will be a good way to start talking to her again. You can bring this up and tell her what you wanted to say, and I think she will appreciate that. But not until the 30 days are up.
Thank you so much. I understand your point. I understand that the purpose of the 30 days NC is for me to feel good about myself and kinda over my ex which I am. Also for my ex to start missing me and seeing me with different set of eyes. Doesn’t this email suggest that? Didn’t I achieve what I needed from NC? I know that I will wait a little more before contacting my ex but I’m just curious to know; if I gained what I wanted, why wait longer? My reasoning for waiting more because I’m afraid it is just missing me and my ex may relapse if I contact again immediately after sending the email. Thanks again.
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