I had an affair long time back. atleast 4 yrs ago. my parents were well aware of it. but the relationship didn’t work out. so we broke up.but still were in love.but as we decided to move on i got engaged to another person and were about to get married but this relationship didn’t work out too.and our engagement broke too.my parents keep blaming me that my past relationship is the reason for this.but its nothing like that.i broke the engagement because he didn’t respect my parents and had called names on them a lot of times & i could’nt bear it.but my parents are harassing me saying such hurting words.they even don’t let me go out with my friends because they don’t trust me they say.but that is killing me inside.m so depressed that i want to go out sometimes with my friends but they don’t allow.this way i m going to kill myself. what can i do to solve this problem.breakup,failures in love have already broken me.and my parents are adding up too. please help.
First of all, I’m sorry to hear that. I know that parents can put a lot of pressure on us sometimes, especially when there are social expectations.
I think I can more or less relate to your situation. I brought a guy home last year for the first time in my life and told my parents we were serious. After he left, my parents kept asking when will he pop the question. Instead, we broke up
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Anyway, we broke up 5 months ago. I felt very embarassed to tell my parents since even thou it wasn’t my fault. I just dodged all their questions and told them it was over.
Yesterday, I was out for lunch with my dad and he finally flat out asked me what happened with my ex. And I told him! There was no blame, no reproach in my dad, instead he was so supportive! I think you need to be honest with your parents about how you really feel. They only want your happiness in the end. So talk to them! I wish I had sooner.
thanks #divinegirl. I already talked to my mother about this.told her that i was sorry for my mistakes and i want to go out with my friends because i am sad.but these explanations doesn’t seem to have any results.. they don’t allow me to do anything…