My ex boyfriend was quite selfish. I loved him dearly but I always seemed to be the one to make surprises or take care in their well being. I feel that I’m too giving and forgiving. If it were to ever happen that I would get back with my ex, how would I make him want to be more active in our relationship?
Are you stuck in the what if’s or is it close to happening? Because there is a difference. You cannot force them to be more active. You can only ask them why. Ask them nicely. Like this “I asked you if you wanted to do ____ with me. You declined. Thrice” this clearly states are you disinterested?