January 29, 2015 at 8:16 am #27442
I completely understand. And glad you’re feeling relieved! I’m sure she’s noticed the change and is watching.
I think my ex is starting to feel the effects, but she’s as stubborn as a mule too. The last time she contacted me was about getting her things out of my way. I believe it was more a ploy to check up on me and see why I’m doing so well. Why do I think this? She has a garage/attic full of her things at my parents house when we lived there, so I moved the rest of her stuff there so it would be easier for her to get it all in the future. She’s never bothered to get any of it before and she has nowhere to put it. She has all of her necessities already, so there’s no point in her getting the rest of her things anytime soon, especially if she’s as “busy” as she likes to seem to be.
She told me before the break up she was afraid of losing me forever and was probably the most emotional I’ve ever seen her before. I believe this very much, but she’s trying her best to seem strong now and like she doesn’t need me. The more time goes on, the worse that feeling will get I’m sure. I cannot be replaced by another individual or any multiples of them. I’ve been told by many that I’m a prize, and I’ve come to find that it’s true. I feel like I’ve picked up on those feelings from friends/family and feel it now.
It’s funny, because I did not really have any stomach problems before the break up. Any time before when we had problems with breaks or a breakup once before, I never had them… yet now I’ve got them and had them fairly bad for about a month. I wonder at times if I’ve been picking it up from my ex as she had a tendency to dry heave/get sick when she was really upset. Thoughts?January 29, 2015 at 8:53 am #27450
I know twins, male. Look nothing like each other. But they know when the other gets hurt or is in an accident and so on. One of them was at work one day and suddenly had to sit down. He felt in pain and of course worried. But he knew exactly what was wrong. Those were the days before mobile phones/cellphones. He just had to go and find out what was wrong.
Turns out that the other twin had fallen off a Roof. He broke his leg if I remember correctly. Now These guys are 2 big tough, gym-going, pot-smoking men. But they swear by These Feelings. So if they are connected, which they almost certainly are, then why can the rest of not be to anybody else??
Maybe most People just don’t want to believe in this Kind of Thing but we are discovering more and more all the time. The earth isn’t flat anymore either!!.
Take mothers Intuition for example too.
You do feel her I would say. Just like I think I can to. And just the same reason why we are sure they will return.
On another Point. On the old tea-drinking woman. I’ve just remembered something. I phoned her last week when I was Feeling really down. I had just heard about the someone else. I asked her if she remembered what she told me and she said no. I almost accused her of being full of crap. I was thinking of leaving Germany there and then for good.
Anyway, she asked where i was and she was and if i loved her. I said of course i did. She said, then let her go. And almost with a laugh said, don’t be leaving there any time soon. Give things time. You can decide at Easter then what you want. She said a really friendly goodbye and that she would be thinking of me. Just thinking back now, the let her go etc. fits very well into what we are trying to do and LoA.January 29, 2015 at 10:16 am #27472
That’s really interesting, but you’re absolutely right and so is the tea-drinking woman! We’ll get through this. 🙂 Easter isn’t too far away if you think about it and I’m sure it will give her time to heal. Just keep working on that LoA!
You’re absolutely right, and I know that twins have that certain connection as well as mothers. My mother has called me out of the blue when I’ve been having a rough time. Same thing with my grandmother, but she all but raised me for the first few years of my life.
A bit of background here: I’ve known my ex since we were probably 10 years old (about 15 years total now). I was her first friend at school as she was the new kid and I was tasked with showing her the ropes. I recall one time during recess I had been running around with my friends, doing my thing, and I ran past my now ex and something didn’t feel right. I turned around and approached her, asking if everything was okay. Turns out the zipper on her jacket got jammed and she began to cry, thinking her mother was going to kill her for it (kid mentality, haha). I told her it was no big deal and I’d help her, it’d be okay. After much effort I got it unstuck and the “crisis” was averted. She beamed so boldly.
Every now and then throughout the years our paths would cross. All our encounters seemed like serendipity almost. There was also a time when I had been in the hospital for a few days my senior year of high school. I walked into the cafeteria feeling rather odd, but she got up from a table nearby and ran and jumped into my arms, hugged me tightly and almost cried. She had never been so happy to see me before and I did not expect it as we were just starting to become close friends. I will never forget that moment. It felt like all was right in the world and I was relieved. Whenever one of us is in a bind, it’s like we sense it somehow and just know. I have NEVER had this type of connection with someone before.
We seem to know what one another is thinking as well. Whenever she’d be looking for something in our apartment I knew what it was without her saying anything and knew exactly where it is, even though I don’t keep up with where things are.
I think there are higher things at play in our lives. I believe that we just have predestined bonds with a few special folk as well.January 29, 2015 at 10:33 am #27478
That’s a fantastic Story. There will be a movie made of you two someday. Maybe every now and then life gets too much for her. She Needs a time out. It might not have much to do with you, maybe nothing at all. She will be back for sure.
As for my Story, I had plenty of Girls over the years. I never gave a damn about any of them really. Well, one I suppose for a few months but that passed.
When I was backpacking in Oz, I had a really strange night. We were working picking Grapes (Myself and a few mates). It was a saturday. That morning at work i spoke to her for the first time. I had seen her about but was never up Close to her.
As soon as our eyes met something happened. She swears that too. She was going to a Party later and asked if i was going. I was.
On the way to the Party i hit a Finnish Girl with the car. She was ok. Later on, with drink in me, I was talking to the same Finnish Girl. She was a strange Girl. Didn’t speak to many People and now that I think of it, I don’t remember her starting that Job or leaving it. Anyway, out of the blue, this Girl said; “go inside, there is a Girl there for you. You will know her when you see her”. I hadn’t been inside before.
When I went in, she was there. Our eyes met again and that was that.
She talked about that too. Often. She was always very very cautious around guys. Talked to them but never any further.
She spoke often since about how strange that night was. We slept in her car that night. Just slept!
The next day we drank together all day. Day after that I had to work somewhere else and said i would call her. But my phone wasn’t working. She was waiting for me when i got home. That was the scariest wait of her life she said.
But we felt that Connection always. Even though we had many fights (usually alcohol related) there was this bond that Held us. It seemed strong to us but others have even mentioned it.
Anyway, I hope she will be back. I hope this guy is just a Phase she is going through. Yesterday showed that she is still thinking about me. I have faith. Time to work on me. I became far to negative over the last few years.
P.s. I’m enjoying These talks a lot. Never spoke about this before reallyJanuary 29, 2015 at 10:51 am #27492
That is a beautiful tale, my friend! Sounds like serendipity to me again, haha.
Our spats weren’t really all that bad, but more from a source of frustration. I think you’re right about it probably not having much to do with me. It’s been quite a few years since she’s had a rebirth of sorts, and the same goes for me. I have never felt more alive and in tune with myself than I have the past month or so.
I know exactly what you mean about that type of bond and others noticing it. I’ve had so many people say that we’re so good together and they’ve never seen a connection like my ex and I have before, a lot of them being married couples!
I think it’s a phase honestly. Mine is doing something very similar it seems, but it’s a part of maturing I believe. That, and the curiosity of “is there someone else out there that I could have a similar bond with?” Usually not the case though, I’ve found.
I can relate with the feeling of becoming too negative. I let myself slip into that place, but it’s not the true me. It’s oddly exciting to be finding our way again though, yes? 🙂
I’ve really been enjoying these talks a lot too! I feel like I had forgotten a lot of my past and that days had just blurred together. It’s refreshing to remember these things, and oddly enough it doesn’t upset me but rather uplifts me.January 29, 2015 at 1:41 pm #27539
Tell me more about the laws of attraction. What should I do? The internet is full of shit.
What are the first steps. You could be my daily guide. If you want. My intention is to use it to get her back. I have faith now in tea lady. But I have to do things myselfJanuary 29, 2015 at 2:19 pm #27548
I’m afraid I’m just started learning and putting it into practice myself. Here’s a link I found on the forums some time ago, might help!
We can both share what we find and what we’ve put to use and have had success with. I ventured out today to see about talking with the local psychic to see about a tarot card reading or something, but unfortunately she was out of town. I’m hoping to get a call from her tonight, so we’ll see what happens from here on out!January 29, 2015 at 2:36 pm #27555
Thanks for that. Let me know how that goes with the psychic. Ask them how they do it. Mrs tea lady says it just comes in visions and colours and numbers. It’s God she says. I’ll read that now. Feeling Good this evening.
Is this freaky what we’re trying? I mean if the other halves found out they would be freaked out.
And do you think that all is on this were “destined” to meet. Did we attract each other? Because I felt good just reading your story.January 29, 2015 at 2:38 pm #27556
*All of us on this. ..I meant to sayJanuary 29, 2015 at 2:50 pm #27561
And ask the psychic about me when you’re there. LolJanuary 29, 2015 at 3:08 pm #27566
I choose to believe we attracted others into our lives. Things happen for a reason, whether we realize it or not! All of the experiences that brought everyone here just proves that there’s still good in the world and it’s not a bad thing that we got here. It just happened as a part of life but look at all we’re reaping from it. There’s so much love and support on these forums and it’s a treat to be able to share so much with others as well as receive.
And I don’t think my complimentee would be freaked out as she’s receptive of these things as well. Might be why we’re so finely tuned to one another for all I know.
I’ll be sure to ask her about ya. 😛January 29, 2015 at 3:15 pm #27567
I take it you get the emails from Kevin. In one of the first ones he suggested writing without thinking and then go for a walk. (I found that good actually).
Well I have just read that now again. A lot of truth in there. But one sentence stood out. “The pheonix will rise”. I am not joking. Isn’t that good. Maybe that’s a first little experience on my path.January 29, 2015 at 3:23 pm #27571
That’s interesting and I didn’t notice that at first. Must have been destined after all! I use this handle as it ties in with my zodiac. Scoprios have been linked to the phoenix as we tend to never give up and rise from the ashes and are born again, destined to soar high.January 29, 2015 at 3:25 pm #27573
I’m a leo. What do I do? Apart from wallow in my own misery. …. Up to nowJanuary 29, 2015 at 3:35 pm #27576
Leos tend to be confident, loyal, encouraging, generous, and ambitious. They’re the lion after all! “Hail to the king, baby.”
I wouldn’t focus on the wallowing. Scorpios tend to be worse actually. :\ We’re the most misunderstood zodiac and we can be a broody bunch.
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