Dating?

@Magnolia I’ve never been a fan of the advice of going out on dates (or even one) soon after a breakup if a person wants to reconcile and during the time it might take to try and work thing out. Most often people can’t focus on the date because they’re thinking about the ex and wishing the date was the ex.
If you’re not comfortable attempting going out on anymore dates, don’t do it!

In your other post you wrote:”And whenever we had a small fight with me giving him the fake pout silent treatment he just fixed it with hot chocolate and nice notes”. Never pout and give a boyfriend the silent treatment! It’s best to discuss issues as they happen in a calm respectful way. Some people prefer to be alone to think about the issue before they’re comfortable talking about it and in that case it would be best to say ‘I’m upset right now and hope we can talk about it later’.

@Magnolia Yes, I learned from my mistakes and vowed to approach him with common sense and kindness. We talked through everything and we’ve been back together happily for about 4 years now..

You also wrote in your other post in reconciliation:”The initial break up was my fault really. I had been the one who emotionally and very childishly told him I didn’t want him anymore and that he had to get my bags ready by tomorrow. Now usually he would be afraid of losing me, which he seemed to be at first. He told me he found it really sad I would break up for this. And eventually when he had given up on fixing things I regretted it”. Always think before you speak and never say anything you might regret later! Telling a man you don’t want him anymore is very hurtful and sounds final. Until you two can discuss what went wrong and how to fix it, he might be reluctant to want to reunite because he’s afraid you’ll dump him again! You seem like a very nice person and he also seems like a nice person, but your interactions with him were less than kind. Work on controlling your emotions and how you respond to people. I think you’re doing great so far!

Take however long with the no contact you prefer, but if he initiates a contact, don’t ignore him!

@Magnolia I’m glad you apologized and that your last conversation was congenial as it works in your favor! But he still has some bad memories of the relationship. No contact is to give both parties a chance to think over why the breakup occurred and whether or not it was best for both of them. It also gives them time to allow the bad memories to fade to the background and the good memories to come to the forefront. And they might miss each other too. If both wish to reconcile, together they can work through the issues:)

There are certain circumstances when ignoring an ex during no contact is not appropriate and I think that applies in your situation. He was reluctant to agree to the breakup and you are sorry for emotionally hurting him. Consider contacting him in a few weeks to ask how he’s doing and let him know what you’ve been doing.. Starting out slowly with nice casual talk is best. If he initiates contact, respond sweetly and appropriately to whatever he says.

Good luck:)